Mother in Law chapter II

What about medical transcription? A friend works at nights at a nearby hospital. She says she has maybe an hour's worth of work and is paid for four. Also, a lot of MTs work at home, or work at home for part of the time (they might come in, in order to pick up/drop off work, make copies, that sort of thing).

You obviously already know medical terminology. You know how to use a computer. The main thing is typing speed but you can work on that.

Here's a link to classes, as you'd probably need some form of certification to get started, plus classes means you could get some placement assistance: http://www.online-education.net/courses/medical-transcriptionist-courses.html

Here's a job on craigslist: http://austin.craigslist.org/hea/97058143.html

I just looked up medical transcriptionist in the healthcare jobs section, under Austin, TX.

There's also Medical Billing Specialist; I believe those pay less but I don't think you need to be able to type quite so quickly.

A lot of people here would like to help you, and certainly we're all here for you.

Maybe training to be a massage therapist?




PS - SOME docs are really SOB's
My husband was having a lot of pain from an implant pressing on a nerve. his electrocardiologist didn't want to admit a collegue could have implanted it incorrectly, so was poking him all over, making him jump since he didn't know where the docs finger was going to poke next, and because of the pain, he was extra jumpy about it.

the doc finally said, "mr. wolverine, you jump no matter WHERE I palpate you, are you SURE you're in such pain??"

MAN!!!!
I was across that room like a damn snake, and got about 4 or 5 really good jabs in his gut, sides and chest with my index finger before he knew what hit him.

He looked like someone had hot wired him.

Then I said, SEE, You jump around pretty smart too when you don't know where it's coming from!!!!

His assistant was standing behind him and just about fainted. I TOUCHED A DOCTOR!!!

Within 30 seconds he was looking over the chart, pretending this never happened, saying "Ahhhhh, well,,....ahhhhh, it seems perhaps the device Might be pressing a nerve......"

He transfered wolvies case to another doc in the practice.


hehehe.

don't mess with me when it's about someone I love.

So, yes I do believe some doctors would rather foresake their oath rather than be wrong.

what about phlebotomy (sp?) i know you know how to draw blood...

Oh please don't give up! For your sake, and little bean's sake. Get away from there as soon as possible. Maybe you don't believe in angels, but, I do because they have always been there for my family. I will ask them to give you strength, and protect you.

Now she's buggered off for a while......let's be honest here......
























Who googled "peristalsis"?

ooh i had another thought...could legal aid or the ACLU represent you for free? in a battle to appeal what happened? i looked them up for you...

www.trla.org and www.aclutx.org

go get em girl...

Not me.

What's this "google" of which you speak?

damn this whole story sucks, you seem like good people and crap like this shouldn't happen to good people

i can only echo what others have already said, do what you can to be elsewhere, your chances of changing her are small, your best bet is to change your situation

best of luck, keep us informed, we're here for you, and ian and bean

What can i say. i just chickened out.
she came down stairs and ian asked her if she was sick and i said " or are you just drunk as usual?" And she siad yes. I drank too much and got sick.
then she said she didnt think she could drink again because she felt so bad. I laughed at her and said you always do so dont pull that stupid f.ucking line on me. And she got quiet.
I told her that it isnt all about her. We feel it and I am sick of it. I am sick of holding bean while she cries because your bottle is more important. You are in such a ******* hurry to go get drunk you race by your own grandchild and dont give a ****. You are selfish and for some strange reason enjoy abusing yourself. It isnt about you.

then she went off on some tangent about.. you dont understand this , or that or blah blah blah.. the same crap she uses to validate her drinking. I just rolled my eyes.. over and over again.

and i said nothing else.
I had an opportunity.. and i said nothing.
I was shaking , sweating .. i couldnt even hardly feed bean i was shaking so bad. All i wanted to tell her was to f.uck off. I kept saying it over and over and over again while she validated her drinking with grief. I lost control of my direction and couldnt say anything.
i hate that i feel this way because of her selfish actions.
all i want to do is scream
i want to cry.
i want to cuss her out i want to just pack my family and leave her to suicide.

ian walked up the stairs and knocked on her door to see what she was doing. that is how she came down stairs. So she says to us that ' i could be dead up there and noone would check on me. ' Ian said.. I did. I knocked on your door.
her responce- Yeah after all day...
Noone was home today , yet for some reason it was our fault? What the hell? How is this our fault? Why are we being subjected to such childish drunk logic?
Am i free to hate yet?
At this point, what would make me feel better is to cry and yell.
you know what? i dont even feel comfortable in the place I am supposed to call home to do that. I dont feel like I am allowed. It is her home. So i have to roll in her self destructive bullshit. I have never considered myself strong.. not by any means, but compared to how i feel right now, i must have... at one point.. been a monster.

that is good information Jespah
thank you for that.
that is something i can study for while we are still here and i can carry with me after we move.
though.. my typing speed is well above average, sometimes bordering abnormal.
i have about 90 wpm with less then 3 mistakes.
about 10 mistakes and i can approach 105..
that is one of my selling assets I tell ya.. ;-)

Cry, for sure. Vent, for sure. Then, sista, get crackin'.

This problem has been going on for a really long time. I completely understand that your options are limited -- but you have options. Even if they're hiding at the moment.

I love the medical transcriptionist idea. I regularly search craigslist for telecommuting jobs, how I get a lot of my freelance stuff. See the medical transcriptionist stuff a lot, sneer at it 'cause it's such good pay and I can't do it. (Different things involved, but almost always a lot of audio/ listening.) Knowledge of medical terminology is always an important part.

Does Mr. Wolf have his own problems? You mentioned credit, but he doesn't have the felon albatross or anything similar, does he? Seems like there are things he can do as the dad that doesn't require your history to be an issue.

Again in terms of craigslist, there are resources galore. Try the "bartering" section. Or go to the local La Leche League (even if you never breastfed, they're about a lot more than that), tell your story, see what they have to say about childcare. At the very least I bet they would help put you in touch with some other moms who have similarly-aged kids who you can arrange a childcare swap with. You watch both kids for a while, the other mom can watch both kids for a while.

You have options. You're tired, it's hard to find 'em, but we can help.

when my sister lived in kingston ontario, she worked for a while for a company that was transcribing legal cases to discs

they would courier her books and discs and she worked at home, she loved it and unfortunately has not been able to find anything like it where she lives now, but something like that might be worth looking into

Don't need to study for medical transcriptionist. Can just do it right out of the gate.

Good info, Jespah and Soz.
Hang in there, Wolfie.

no.
ian doesnt have any problems. No credit problems ... well yeah.. about a 200 dollar cc issue . But it is so small that we can pay that when we need to. We have been giving 10, 20 here and there when available that is how it is so low. It was at 500 a year ago.. but that isnt a big credit issue.
No legal charges, no repos... nothing.
He is co-signer on the car so his credit has been getting a good bump with that as well.

i do feel at times that my resources are tapped.
i know they are not, but you are right soz, im tired.
i could just crawl up in a ball and lay there. i have no brain power and im tired of that.
I have started the marathon thing to get me out of that slump. To start feeling better and give me something to do away from here. That has helped my mental state tons.
now that i have some kind of energy , i need to " get crackin' "
this has been going on for a long time.
and i feel partially at fault. I never said anything. I just ignored and went on. and i stayed mindless to what it was doing to me. this past weekend, being away from her was the best gift I could have had. it was a refesher course in life and sanity.
I dont know if i would feel this drive that I do right now to get out if i had not spent that time at my cousins house.

there IS a light on in my head, i just need to vent the anger and thefrustration... and I can see it clearer.

tomorrow morning, i am going to post my ' self' on craigslist as an evening housekeeper.
I can work for a company, or someone in their home. Maybe a cleaning company will see my information and respond offering a job. Then, at 2pm I go see the Dalai Lama. :-)

Wednesday morning I am going to construct a basic resume and send it to housecleaning companies and temporary agencies looking for little afternoon or weekend jobs. Things like housecleaning or a secretary position. Things that may/may not require a back ground check.. or if they do, they will be human enough to listen to what happened and judge it for themselves instead of being scared that I am a " felon"
so many people see the felony on my record and think ' murderer, or rapist, or aggrivated assult.. or something horrid like that. It is a horrible title to hold. But when I tell people, they tend to almost laugh at the nonsense of having the label felon for writting on a piece of paper.. >sigh<
my task, i am learning, is to sell them on myself enough to where they WANT to hear the explination and they get secure with what REALLY happened and loose the fear of the word ' felon'.
This i need practice on. So i begin as a housekeeper...

this is all i have brain power for when it comes to planning steps to get out of here. much more then i had earlier, but i will build on it as time goes by.

Shewolf, sweetie, I just saw this thread. You had mentioned to me when you were here, that you were having problems with your m-i-l, but I had no idea that it had become so terrible.

All the advice you've already had is very good and worth a follow up. Can't remember now who mentioned the ACLU, but that is certainly worth a try. Getting a felony off your record would do a world of good.

Oh sweetie, I wish things were easier. You know, don't you, that the three of you have a standing invitation to stay with us if you move back to NM. Bet you could find a job here--you are so smart, personable and as honest as the day is long.

Love you, ms. wolf.

Sincere question -- would it be a relief or an annoyance to have others do some the brain power part for you? It's an automatic mode for me, a lot of what I used to do professionally -- advising and assisting a person (often a young mother) who felt trapped in an untenable position.

I could easily take over some of the prep work part of it if you wanted me to -- if it would be a relief and not an imposition.

If I did, no promises, but would involve doing various things on your behalf, getting contacts for you, etc.

I do think that where you live is a positive, more resources there than many other places.

Doing whatever you can sounds good to start. You're right that housecleaning is a bit of a netherworld, not so concerned with background checks and such.

soz yes, it would be a great help
your post and dianes have made me cry
im going to sign off and just go through these tears
i need this
thank you.
i maynot be back on tonight. we will see.
i will talk to you tomorrow