Talk about your various addictions here

Well darn Eoe, that's positively disgusting. But way to go.

Hey, good for you 'eoe'! It's not hard to have that extra cookie or spoon of dessert, for sure. I've got to watch myself when I go to a buffet type restaurant.

I feel sorry for those who do go overboard in the gift-buying department. It can take a long time to pay off those big crdit card bills.

That's why we know better now.

Once you break an addiction, it's easier to control the others, I think.

One component of working a 12-step program is to remove yourself from the source and situations in which the addiction manifested itself. The recovering alcoholic does not go out to bars with his old drinking buddies for recreation anymore for instance. The recovering smoker will generally not have a pack of cigarettes and a lighter on his desk where he used to chain smoke. Once the physical addiction is broken and the cravings abate, will power and positive reinforcement can be effective to stay off the stuff though the physical addiction is only part of it as those recovering can testify.

Compulsive disorders related to food closely mimic substance addictions. We can remove all the white flour, sugar, high fat stuff from the house, of course, but there is no way to completely remove oneself from food. Will power to not overeat is very difficult for millions of Americans trained to use food for socializing, comfort, and distraction. And, unless they are wealthy enough to have servants to do all the grocery buying, cooking,and serving, there is no way they can insulate themselves from opportunities for food excesses.

This is no way minimizes the commitment, effort, and pure heroism of those who have overcome substance addictions. Few do it without some kind of outside reinforcement.

But there is room for compassion for those fighting the battle of the bulge and eating disorders too, however, and support groups are invaluable in that fight too.

Point taken.

Some of those have been my oldest friends - and don't see, haven't seen one reason, why I shouldn't go with them in a pub/bar.

I don't frequent bars/pubs anymore and surely won't ever go (besides for 'professional' reasons) in most I went in the last few months of my drining career, but I met my buddies in my local pub the first time when I came back to my place after the therapy :wink:

I have only read the last page, since I don't have a week . It's good to see that many have posted here.
I no longer struggle with pornography, which was never a major problem, and I struggle with smoking, people pleasing, and I don't know what to call it, hitting on people? It's something I don't seem to be able to control, being very very friendly and flirty, without any intention of sleeping with anyone. I once gave in and moved in with a woman and it was an awful experience, because I went against my best judgment and didn't exactly enter the relationship slowly. I won't get into detail about that, but I'm just very awkwardly friendly, with guys too, and I'm straight. I have never heard of anyone else that deals with this, I've been called unique.
I attend a 12-step program and have made progress with people pleasing and with freaking out in triggering situations.

Hello loveandpeace and welcome to a2k

I am glad you have sought help for yourself with your various struggles.
Perhaps in addition you should seek out counseling for yourself to find the
source of your wanting to please everyone. There might be some underlying
problem that can be solved with proper pattern changes. Good luck to you!

Is there any slightest chance you used to be the early member called something like peaceandlove? Accounting type that knew everything about border collies, I'm thinking. If so, a big welcome back! Otherwise, as CJ says, welcome to a2k.

When the Red Chinese achieved political power, thay publicly murdered all the opium addicts.
That proved to be successful, on a long term basis.





David