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The anti-gay marriage movement IS homophobic

 
 
Chrissee
 
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Reply Thu 27 Jan, 2005 09:18 pm
<yawn>

How many more pages of denial can this thread take?
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georgeob1
 
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Reply Thu 27 Jan, 2005 09:39 pm
Is that what you take for a good substitute for thought and argument? You have said it many times here already - without noticeable effect. Why the repetition? Who is in denial? Don't you feel a bit foolish?
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Chrissee
 
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Reply Thu 27 Jan, 2005 09:43 pm
Sorry, I gotta go, there are some fenceposts down the road I need to argue you with.
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blatham
 
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Reply Fri 28 Jan, 2005 06:31 am
george wrote:
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I think the main point here is that "racism" is at best a very vague term used to describe various forms of intolerance. Same goes for "homophobia". Both are merely words used, usually inaccurately, to characterize and prejudge the motivations and intent of an opponent. Life and human thought and motivations are a good deal more complex than allowed for in such categorical terminology. Wise men (in my view) avoid such appellations. Better to judge political movements by the specifics of what they do and advocate, than to attempt to judge what one imagines motivates them. Same goes for individual people. One judges them based on what they do, not on what one imagines they think. Most of the evils of the unlamented 20th century were done by political movements that demanded to know and control what people think, and insisted on the right to judge their worth based on that.

But you've spent zero minutes (?) checking the specifics of what these groups I refer do and say. Where does that leave your 'judgement'?

Otherwise, george, in the service of your argument, you have just managed to eviscerate language of meaning.
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georgeob1
 
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Reply Fri 28 Jan, 2005 07:19 am
Well better to eviscerate meaning than eviscerate nothing at all.

I'll admit I have not researched the various writings of the groups Blatham and others have cited. I have no doubt that some of it does indeed reflect both homophobia and prescriptions for intolerance towards homosexuals. However, I neither agree nor associate myself with this stuff. Further I don't believe it or its spokesmen represent either the leadership or even the dominant part of the opposition to homosexual marriage. It is a dogmatic extreme end of the political spectrum on these and related issues, just as are the extreme homosexual advocates who would have us accept as holy writ that homosexuality is 100% determined by nature, that 10% of the population is homosexual, and that we need to quickly reform all of our social institutions from education to marriage to establish the absolute equivalency of homosexual unions with those that will produce the children of the next generation.

I reject both of these extremes equally. I advocate a high degree of tolerance towards homosexuals, including the establishment of civil unions for those of them who want them. I also advocate the preservation of the very meaningful difference between the marriage of a man and a woman and a union of homosexuals. I believe these are the views of the majority of Americans, as evidenced in the elections that have occurred so far: They have very little to do with those of either extreme on these issues, and Blatham's attempt to paint them with this brush is itself an assault on meaning, just as is the basic idea of erasing the distinction between unions of men and women and unions of homosexuals an assault on the meanings of words and ideas.
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blatham
 
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Reply Fri 28 Jan, 2005 07:30 am
blatham wrote:
How is that different from a larger group, other than that it becomes more difficult, perhaps, to establish it so?

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Because the larger your group gets, the greater the differences inside the group become, relative to the differences between the group and the rest of the world. For example, a few days back, I started making a list of conservative think tanks, sorted by the size of their budget, and probed their stand on gay marriage by searching their website for the term "gay marriage". I didn't finish the project because it ended up consuming more time than I was willing to put in. But what I did see was that conservative American think tanks publish opinions as diverse as America as a whole.

Official positions range from the Cato Institute's, which is rabidly pro-gay-marriage on freedom-of-contract grounds, to that of the Family Research Council, which literally stops just short of the claim that allowing gay marriage would risk bringing about The Flood again. In between, you have the American Enterprise Institute, which has no definite position; it thinks the states should just experiment in either direction and see what happens. Also in-between is the official position of the Heritage Foundation, which is definitely anti-gay-marriage but just as definitely not homophobic. I find it very hard to see anything in this spectrum that would be coherent enough to be called a 'movement', and a 'homophobic' one at that.


Sure, larger sample = more variance = more complexity. But that's not a particularly relevant corner of this argument anyway.

You've done a bit of survey of right-leaning think tanks. You claim their positions on gay marriage/homosexuality seem comparable to that of the general public. Possibly accurate. But why did you bother with that exercise? Those aren't the groups in question.

There's nothing I've seen in the neoconservative literature, for example, that concerns itself particularly with homosexuality other than some personal opinions (bill kristol apparently doesn't like sex of any sort very much), or as it might fall out from their rejection of all things 60s including sexual liberalism, or as it may be seen as an element of Straussian 'virtue', or even in the differences between a libertarian perspective and a neoconservative perspective - the latter not so bound to minimalist governance and rather more willing to legislate traditionalist moral norms for functional reasons (along with 'virtue').

But we aren't talking about the broad conservative movement here. We are talking about a portion of it, a portion which is identifiable and as I've quoted above, they themselves do the identifying...'this is us, this is what we think, this is what we've done'.

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blatham wrote:
Bernard Lewis, for example, will suggest that the west will be prudent to do A but not B when engaged with the Muslim world, because of broad and general cultural propensities or commonalities. Is all such understanding valueless and are all such sentences meaningless?

thomas wrote: Almost meaningless, I'm afraid. In reality, what he calls "the" muslim world is even less coherent than American conservatives are on the topic of gay marriage. We have been brought up with history books where such generalizations sounded important and insightful -- but the more I grow up, the more I see this rhetoric for the pompous pretension that it is.


I sympathize with you here, thomas. One of my history profs spent a full lecture trying to dissuade his young students to recognize the fallacy in understanding periods and movements as is done in the Time/Life Books schema..."The Dark Age ended and the Rennaissance began on tuesday april 22, 1438 in Genoa".

But you said 'almost' in your sentence. So even you, a numbers guy with a distinct logical positivist coloration to questions of what we can know and what has meaning, allow some room for sensible statements to be made. Clearly, I allow much more...sociology and anthropology frequently must deal with a greater degree of fogginess, with acceptance of probability as the necessary language we must speak with. But of course, so do actuaries...'teens are more likely to be dangerous drivers'.

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I truly don't mean to bring this up as a diversion or red herring. If the community discussion is influenced by a deep taboo or cultural value (and that is surely the case here) which is not available for reflection, how does one proceed with discussion.

thomas wrote: One doesn't. One occasionally points out discreetly, as ehBeth did earlier in this thread, that some countries have gay marriage yet the sky isn't falling there. One repeats such hints from time to time,then waits as the taboo slowly dissolves. This is how the English overcame the Victorian taboo against speaking about underpants, and this is how most anti-gay Americans will eventually overcome their taboos against homosexuality. But rushing into gay marriage won't do much good, any more than a legal prohibition against using the word 'unspeakables' would have done in Victorian England.


On this, we disagree, both as to how social change comes about and as to why we might want to find ways to accelerate social change. Much social change has come about or been accelerated through activism, loud and bold. Sufferage, civil rights in the south, workers' rights, etc.
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blatham
 
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Reply Fri 28 Jan, 2005 07:55 am
george

I know you ain't them. But I also know you don't know very much about them (you confess to not looking). You advocate a high degree of tolerance and I think your limiting them from less than full equality is not justified morally or for any other empirically discernible reason. You label my position as 'extreme', but that only makes sense in the context of traditional social norms - it does not make sense in terms of principles of equality.

We don't agree.
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Thomas
 
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Reply Fri 28 Jan, 2005 07:59 am
blatham wrote:
We don't agree.

No kidding? Laughing

On a more serious note, my point on social change was not about being discreet vs. being activist. It was about not changing the law before public opinion is ready, which I think is very different from breaking the law to change public opinion. I greatly respect the 19th century workers who went on strike before it was legal. I respect Rosa Parks for not standing up in that bus. I respect homosexual couples who lived together even though it was illegal under the sodomy laws of the time. I respect people who publically admit to smoking pot to take a stand against the deceptivelly labelled 'war on drugs'.

But I can't respect the mayor of San Francisco for issuing gay marriage licenses, nor can I respect the Massachusetts Supreme Court for compelling the legislative to issue them. The difference is that the former set of activists broke the law, but, unlike the latter set, didn't put themselves above it. The former backed up their resistance against unjust laws with a willingness to go to jail for breaking them. The latter just subverted the law they had sworn to uphold, secure in the knowledge that their status would save them from any of the personal consequences that mere mortals would suffer.

That's the relevant difference to me.
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blatham
 
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Reply Fri 28 Jan, 2005 08:19 am
dadothree wrote:
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george
Youv'e pointed out some genuine examples of hatred. I think that the current attempt to hang onto the coat tails of people who have truly suffered, cheapens their memory. But as their objective is very self centered why should they care? I have very much enjoyed reading your post as well as those by thomas. Although my reasons for opposition are different, I respect your perspectives as honest. I cannot say the same for (most of) the others here. They have yet to address the possible effects to children. I believe this is because they are part of a growing segment of our society that is solely concerned with themselves. As such they view children as adornments instead of our future. I have tried to get them to debate this point but they instead just keep calling names. Although they are learned they have no wisdom. And no honesty. I must admit that I feel that I have been foolish too. I feel that I have been casting my pearls to( w/ exceptions) swine. I wish all of you the best, even Blatham.


I wish you, personally, the best too. But I wish your project here the very worst. It is not an instance of Christian charity, but an instance of casting stones. It is not inclusive of those different, as Christ would have it, but exclusive and intolerant. And it is in direct opposition to the principles and ideals of equality which underlie the American Bill of Rights and Constitution.

You assumed I was homosexual and you implied I was out to recruit children for my homosexual pleasure. I have little confidence you'll come to understand just why your assumptions were so wrong, but I can hope for revelation to grace you one day.
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PDiddie
 
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Reply Fri 28 Jan, 2005 08:45 am
Casting stones (when he thinks he's casting pearls).

That's about it.
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blatham
 
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Reply Fri 28 Jan, 2005 11:45 am
By the by...here's something contemporary from the Canadian scene

http://www.mytelus.com/news/article.do?pageID=canada_home&articleID=1829528

The upside-down bit is right here...notice who he pretends is the victim...
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"That kind of logic that equates traditional marriage with segregation or apartheid which some former cabinet ministers have done means that inevitably you cannot tolerate the existence and practice of institutions that recognize the traditional definition of marriage," he said.
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blatham
 
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Reply Wed 16 Feb, 2005 06:32 am
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dispatch from the culture war
Gay Arkansans protest Gov. Mike Huckabee's hetero-only "Celebration of Marriage."

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By Michelle Goldberg



Feb. 15, 2005 | Holding on to her husband's arm, a middle-aged woman in a white wedding veil and sparkly makeup beamed as she walked past a cluster of protesters outside the Alltel Arena in Little Rock, Ark. The couple joined thousands of others, all streaming into the stadium for a Valentine's Day "Celebration of Marriage" hosted by Arkansas Gov. Mike Huckabee and his wife, Janet. Those who weren't welcome at the governor's celebration -- gay couples like Robert Loyd and John Schenck, together for 30 years and recently wed in Toronto -- took the event as a personal rebuke. After all, just a few months ago, Arkansas voted overwhelmingly to ban both gay marriage and domestic partnerships -- all in the name of preserving the institution of marriage.

"I can't marry my Valentine," said one sign. "Get a new Valentine," one woman, a celebrant, shouted as she walked in.

The Huckabees had invited every God-fearing heterosexual in the state to watch them upgrade their union into a "covenant marriage," a type of marriage that's very difficult to get out of. Covenant marriages are one of the right's attempts to shore up traditional matrimony, something that appears especially embattled in Bible Belt states like Arkansas, where divorce rates are soaring.

The sad state of marriage in Arkansas, which has America's third-highest divorce rate, led Huckabee, a former Baptist minister, to declare a "marital emergency" in 2000 and pledge to halve the number of divorces in a decade. As part of that effort, he pushed for the state's covenant marriage law, which essentially forecloses the option of no-fault divorce for participating couples. "Only when there has been a complete and total breach of the marital covenant commitment may a party seek a declaration that the marriage is no longer legally recognized," the 2001 law says. Such a breach can include physical abuse, imprisonment or "habitual drunkenness for one year."

People aren't exactly flocking to covenant marriages. Two other states, Louisiana and Arizona, also have such laws, but only a tiny percentage of couples are participating. Huckabee hopes to change that. Before his Valentine's Day rally, the governor toured the state with the co-host of the event, Dennis Rainey, head of the Arkansas-based ministry FamilyLife, a division of the Campus Crusade for Christ. Together, they encouraged pastors to refuse to perform noncovenant marriages in their churches. The churches, in turn, organized fleets of buses to take their congregants to Alltel for a kind of religious revival as scripted by Hallmark.

There's a contradiction at the heart of the marriage movement. In their zeal to "protect" marriage from gay people and divorce, religious right activists have fetishized it, promoting it as a source of boundless bliss that would make the authors of bodice-rippers blush even as they bemoan a society where people are too easily swayed by marriage's disappointments. "On the one hand they have this romanticized view of marriage, true love and putting the partner above everything, but another theme in this whole marriage movement is that you shouldn't expect so much from marriage, you should suck it up, stay together for the sake of the kids and recognize that marriage is a moral duty," says Stephanie Coontz, author of the forthcoming "Marriage, a History: From Obedience to Intimacy, or How Love Conquered Marriage."

"Your eyes must light up when your spouse enters the room," proclaimed Rabbi Daniel Lapin, who, in a gesture toward ecumenicism, was invited to give the opening speech at Huckabee's event. A close ally of the religious right, Lapin is a gray-bearded man with a British accent who seems to be striving to become the real-life Rabbi Bengelsdorf from Philip Roth's "The Plot Against America." Lapin said that marriage is needed to turn the "raw rock of male sexuality and aggression" into a beautiful work of art.

The highlight of the night was the Huckabees' conversion of their marriage and restatement of their vows, including Janet's pledge to "submit" to Mike. When they were done, they invited the audience to repeat their promises. Thousands of wives stood up and vowed to submit to thousands of husbands, and then thousands of people kissed and cheered.

There was only one interruption all night. During Huckabee's speech, a group of young activists unfurled banners saying "Queer Rights Now." As security guards moved in to hustle them out, two young men embraced. They stayed put as the rest of their group moved into the aisles, looking a little scared as they clung to each other as people jeered them and called for their arrest.

It was the most romantic thing I saw all night.
http://www.salon.com/news/feature/2005/02/15/covenant/index.html
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Chrissee
 
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Reply Wed 16 Feb, 2005 09:38 am
Anti-gay marriage protested in the area yesterday but the pathetic losers chose to protest in Oakland, so they are not only homophobes they are also cowards.

Thank God I live in the most beautiful, tolerant city in the US.
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blatham
 
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Reply Mon 4 Apr, 2005 06:05 pm
Just a little update note...

Presently, there is a movement on in Jerusalem to prevent a gay pride parade. Arrayed against the parade are representatives of the three main resident faith groups. As one rabbi put it...
"This is the Holy Land, not Homo Land."
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blatham
 
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Reply Wed 6 Apr, 2005 08:43 am
Kansas, yesterday, voted to ammend their state constitution to disallow not merely gay marriage, but gay civil unions as well.

As stated in the original post here (the Oliphant column) this demonstrates not merely some notion to protect the 'sanctity' of the term marriage, but to dissuade and impede homsexuality in the culture. Homophobia.
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Ticomaya
 
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Reply Wed 6 Apr, 2005 08:55 am
blatham wrote:
Kansas, yesterday, voted to ammend their state constitution to disallow not merely gay marriage, but gay civil unions as well.

As stated in the original post here (the Oliphant column) this demonstrates not merely some notion to protect the 'sanctity' of the term marriage, but to dissuade and impede homsexuality in the culture. Homophobia.


And it passed with 70% of the votes.
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DrewDad
 
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Reply Wed 6 Apr, 2005 08:57 am
Ticomaya wrote:
blatham wrote:
Kansas, yesterday, voted to ammend their state constitution to disallow not merely gay marriage, but gay civil unions as well.

As stated in the original post here (the Oliphant column) this demonstrates not merely some notion to protect the 'sanctity' of the term marriage, but to dissuade and impede homsexuality in the culture. Homophobia.


And it passed with 70% of the votes.

ROTFLMAO!
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blatham
 
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Reply Wed 6 Apr, 2005 09:01 am
Tico

Yes, it did. And a poll of 1930's Berliners would have established that Jews are exactly like rats by what percentage?
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Ticomaya
 
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Reply Wed 6 Apr, 2005 09:07 am
blatham wrote:
Tico

Yes, it did. And a poll of 1930's Berliners would have established that Jews are exactly like rats by what percentage?


Couldn't tell you. But we should be able to agree that whether Jews are exactly like rats is a debateable point .... but the fact that Kansans have overwhelmingly voted to amend their constitution is not.

Why are you trying to compare a hypothetical poll to an affirmative vote? I assume you are suggesting the fact that 70% voted that way doesn't make the end result the right thing to do? To which I would respond by saying that you could say the same thing about the Schiavo ruling ... but that doesn't change the facts of the result of this vote, or that Schiavo has been killed.
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Walter Hinteler
 
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Reply Wed 6 Apr, 2005 09:15 am
Well, my firts thought when reading this was: when do they introduce the Middle Ages in their constituion?

But, indeed, when a majority thinks, a constitution is the maxime to keep sins and thus gays and lesbians out of their society ...
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