@Seeker123,
I am not quite sure what the argument is here. I define the term "rape" simply as non-consensual sex. You are right that how our society defines the word "rape" is changing. But that is true of lots of words. There are lots of ideas that all understand now in a way that is quite different from our grandparents.
Being dragged into the bushes for sex I didn't want while I was too drunk to say "no" would be pretty traumatic for me. I certainly consider this to be a clear example of rape (since there is no consent given).
If I tried to push someone off of me, but they forced themselves on me anyway is another clear example of rape. Again, the issue is that there was no consent.
The idea that it isn't "rape" if you "enjoyed" it is particularly troubling. There is a huge issue for male survivors of rape that men are always supposed to enjoy sex (particularly if the perpetrator is a woman). In truth, rape is as traumatic for male victims as it is for women... but it is more difficult for male victims because society doesn't accept that they are victims.
I am not really sure what the "debate" is. There is a clear definition of "rape" that I think works very well. If there is sex where one party doesn't consent, then it is rape.