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I'm pregnant and my husband is divorcing me for the other woman.

 
 
Reply Mon 9 May, 2016 02:53 pm
my husband (42m) has been having an affair with his co-worker (38f) for the past year. We have been married for about 13 years, and our marriage has been far from perfect. I found out about the affair about 1.5 months ago the week before my father passed away from cancer. I am also 4 months pregnant with his baby. I moved out the morning I found out, and 2 weeks later I found them in bed with each other in our apartment. That evening he tried to commit suicide because I was telling the OW that we had just had sex in that same bed 2 days ago, and I have text message conversations to prove it. He denied it to her, called me a liar, went outside and slit his arm open, almost dying. Thank God he didn't die, but now he has left me, filed for divorce and wants to be with the OW, who has also left her husband of 15 years, and they have 3 young daughters together. My husband says she is everything that I wasn't. I know this is crazy and everyone tells me to move on and get over it, but it is difficult because I still love him and want to work it out for the sake of us and our children. He says he's 100% sure about the divorce. We also have a 12 year old son.
She knows I'm pregnant with his baby, I find it so heartbreaking that another woman would do this to a woman. I could never hurt another woman especially one that was pregnant regardless of how much I loved him.
What should I do, do you think their relationship will last? They talk about eventually marrying each other. I am having the hardest time healing, and normally I am a very strong ambitious woman.
 
oralloy
 
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Reply Mon 9 May, 2016 03:36 pm

You need a lawyer, both to handle the divorce and to handle the child support.

Even if you still hope the guy comes back to you, there is at least a possibility that he will not, and you need to be legally prepared for that possibility. And the sooner you start getting legal advice, the sooner you can start avoiding possible legal mistakes.
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jespah
 
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Reply Mon 9 May, 2016 05:00 pm
@Catcastaneda,
Yep, I'm with oralloy.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. It is monumentally unfair to you and your children.

Your husband, at the barest, absolute minimum, needs to be accountable to help out with the children he helped to bring into the world. Ideally, it would be shared custody (for the sake of the kids) but, at the very least, it has got to be financially.

See a lawyer. See a therapist. Take care of your children and yourself. When the dust settles, I think you'll see you got the better end of the deal by him leaving.
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Tiger81
 
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Reply Tue 15 Nov, 2016 10:54 am
@Catcastaneda,
First off, this woman has done nothing to you, your soon to be ex husband has. And he has made his choice.
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