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Masturbation addicts please have a look at this..

 
 
Venkat4111
 
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Reply Mon 22 Feb, 2016 02:42 pm
@Ragman,
Thank Ragman. I will take a look at the information and I have done like this already in my previous appointments with psychologists.
ossobuco
 
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Reply Mon 22 Feb, 2016 03:01 pm
@Venkat4111,
Are you near a good university hospital? I don't know how your hospitals work there, but here in the US, where there are famous medical school universities (also famous otherwise), they tend to have people on staff for many fields, such as neurology and urology, and so on; also clinics as well, not just private doctors. I have what I think is the world's best ophthalmologist, and I see him in a clinic.

On your fixation about masturbation (I commend you for spelling it correctly, many don't!), I 98% - think that is a red herring. It's a red herring unless you somehow broke/tore something back when you were eleven, twelve, and so on. Which causes me to ask if you have seen a urologist? Doctors are specialists for reasons and tend to read up more re papers in their fields.

Also, past that, the other symptoms, even if you tore something somehow back then, are likely unrelated - and you are conflating the two questions.



https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Red_herring
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Leadfoot
 
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Reply Mon 22 Feb, 2016 03:16 pm
@Venkat4111,
It is possible to get addicted to almost anything. Addiction happens most often in an environment where one has nothing to look forward to. In that scenario one often grabs onto whatever thing can give them some kind of pleasure. There are millions of people who look forward to nothing more engaging than their next meal. That has real health side effects.

So, do you have anything else in your life that you look forward to?
maxdancona
 
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Reply Mon 22 Feb, 2016 08:24 pm
@Venkat4111,
Venkat4111 wrote:

Hi,
I am from India, I got good info from some of the doctors here. We have some better doctors here who can diagnosis the cause and prescribe treatment.


The doctors who tell you this are crackpots. I can tell you this not only from science, but also from personal experience.

The majority of adult males in the US masturbate regularly. And, yet we don't have any of these health problems.

Any doctor that tells you that masturbation causes vision or neurological symptoms is full of crap.

oristarA
 
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Reply Mon 22 Feb, 2016 11:02 pm
Here's a doctor's article from WebMD:
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Masturbation: Healthy for a Relationship
How should you react if you see your spouse masturbating?
By Louanne Cole Weston, PhD
WebMD Magazine - Expert Commentary Reviewed by Brunilda Nazario, MD
WebMD Feature Archive

Claire headed off to work one morning just as she always did, leaving 30 minutes before her husband, Mark. No sooner did she pull out of the driveway than she realized she’d left her favorite lipstick on the bathroom sink. When she ran into the house to grab it and go, she accidentally saw Mark in the shower -- masturbating. She had always assumed that he pleasured himself, but she’d never actually seen it.

Claire’s feelings were all over the map that morning: Should I pretend I saw nothing? What should I do? Is it normal?

Masturbation was once vilified as a perversion. All sorts of efforts, ranging from extreme guilt to diabolic contraptions, were made to discourage both single and partnered people from doing it. Yet sexologist Alfred Kinsey’s groundbreaking data, first reported in the 1950s, had plenty to say about the subject, including that women who masturbated before becoming sexual in a marriage had a much better likelihood of achieving orgasms during sexual contact with their husbands.

Still, mental health experts were not particularly vocal about the health aspects of masturbation until the 1970s. Even though masturbation’s benefits have been regularly proffered since then, many people today still feel extremely uncomfortable about doing it or discussing it -- much less allowing their partner to see them in the act.

What’s a healthy way to view masturbation? It’s appropriate, and a valid option in a relationship, when one’s partner is unavailable due to physical separation, fatigue, recovery from childbirth, or illness. It also helps balance discrepancies in frequency desires. Since there is no formula bestowed during a marriage ceremony that magically aligns two people to have the same level of sexual interest, masturbation is a good thread to weave through a relationship’s tapestry.

Most couples have a “higher frequency partner” and a “lower frequency partner.” This desire discrepancy puzzles many couples. They struggle with having sex when they don’t really want to. Some wrestle with deeply held feelings that they should be everything their partner desires sexually.

This is a nearly impossible task, and I counsel people to let go of that goal. Masturbation helps with an imbalance and helps couples avoid being coerced up or down in frequency by their partner. It’s an aid to a relationship over the long haul.

Claire has a couple of healthy choices when she discovers Mark masturbating. She can grab her lipstick, respect his privacy, and -- saying nothing -- go. Or she can tap on the shower door and say, “Wish I could join you! See you later!”

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oristarA
 
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Reply Mon 22 Feb, 2016 11:24 pm
@Venkat4111,
Venkat4111 wrote:

I just wanted to save any teenager who search for suggestions before doing masturbation.


Your case is statistically insignificant in medical science. You're spiritually masturbating with ignorance and illusion that you can do the job of scientists and doctors, who have proved the masturbation is healthy with statistically considerable significance.(see the attached article)
Take the advice that you will not spread the message of ignorance. Remember: Scientists and Doctors have done and will do very well about it.

Quote:
Your Guide to Masturbation
In this article
Who Masturbates?
Why Do People Masturbate?
Is Masturbation Normal?
Is Masturbation Harmful?
Masturbation is the self-stimulation of the genitals to achieve sexual arousal and pleasure, usually to the point of orgasm (sexual climax). It is commonly done by touching, stroking, or massaging the penis or clitoris until an orgasm is achieved. Some women also use stimulation of the vagina to masturbate or use "sex toys," such as a vibrator.
Who Masturbates?
Just about everybody. Masturbation is a very common behavior, even among people who have a sex partner. In one national study, 95% of males and 89% of females reported that they have masturbated. Masturbation is the first sexual act experienced by most males and females. In young children, masturbation is a normal part of the growing child's exploration of his or her body. Most people continue to masturbate in adulthood, and many do so throughout their lives.

Why Do People Masturbate?
In addition to feeling good, masturbation is a good way of relieving the sexual tension that can build up over time, especially for people without partners or whose partners are not willing or available for sex. Masturbation also is a safe sexual alternative for people who wish to avoid pregnancy and the dangers of sexually transmitted diseases. It also is necessary when a man must give a semen sample for infertility testing or for sperm donation. When sexual dysfunction is present in an adult, masturbation may be prescribed by a sex therapist to allow a person to experience an orgasm (often in women) or to delay its arrival (often in men).

Is Masturbation Normal?

While it once was regarded as a perversion and a sign of a mental problem, masturbation now is regarded as a normal, healthy sexual activity that is pleasant, fulfilling, acceptable, and safe. It is a good way to experience sexual pleasure and can be done throughout life.

Masturbation is only considered a problem when it inhibits sexual activity with a partner, is done in public, or causes significant distress to the person. It may cause distress if it is done compulsively or interferes with daily life and activities.

Source:
http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/masturbation-guide
unqualified
 
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Reply Tue 23 Feb, 2016 06:56 am
seriously, anyone who has read this AND thought any of it was honestly true : OMG?
I can't imagine what steps would lead such ignorance here & reading it in the first place.........
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oristarA
 
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Reply Tue 23 Feb, 2016 07:16 am
@maxdancona,
maxdancona wrote:

Venkat4111 wrote:

Hi,
I am from India, I got good info from some of the doctors here. We have some better doctors here who can diagnosis the cause and prescribe treatment.


The doctors who tell you this are crackpots. I can tell you this not only from science, but also from personal experience.

The majority of adult males in the US masturbate regularly. And, yet we don't have any of these health problems.

Any doctor that tells you that masturbation causes vision or neurological symptoms is full of crap.




It is very doubtful the "doctors" that he contacted are qualified to be called doctors. His thinking pattern is lagged far behind and superstitious. He lacks common sense of modern science.
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Venkat4111
 
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Reply Tue 23 Feb, 2016 07:43 am
@Leadfoot,
Hi,
I worked as a software professional till 2015. Now I am into agriculture in my hometown. I was addicted to masturbation during my teenage though I studied hard and scored well in exams. The problem with masturbation is, we do this privately not like other addictions smoking, alcohol etc. where we get second person view on those addictions and we tend to stop at any time. For masturbation case, the person who is doing that should be aware of what is he doing and what are the pros and cons. In my case I lost this sense and I did it excessively. I have lot of things to look forward like my parents and my marriage life, starting a business, owning a good house etc. But everything is getting dominated by this
jespah
 
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Reply Tue 23 Feb, 2016 08:50 am
@Venkat4111,
Then you need to go back to your psychologist.
Lordyaswas
 
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Reply Tue 23 Feb, 2016 09:02 am
@jespah,
Or conjure up a mental image of Margaret Thatcher at least once per minute until the urge passes.
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saab
 
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Reply Tue 23 Feb, 2016 09:25 am
@Venkat4111,
You have parents, a wife and probably other relatives.
Why has not any single one of thses people taken you to a doctor with all the problems you have?
How do you think you can start a business when you are loosing your eyesight and you can only stand for 10 minutes?
Go and see the best psychologist or even better a psychiatrist. The latter also has a medical education and is allowed to give you medicin and get you into a hospital.
Leadfoot
 
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Reply Tue 23 Feb, 2016 10:20 am
@Venkat4111,
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I have lot of things to look forward like my parents and my marriage life, starting a business, owning a good house etc. But everything is getting dominated by this
From your list I can't tell if these are things you truly look forward to or hoped for things in the future. Long range plans and goals are good to have but they are no substitute for things you feel genuinely passionate about.

In fact, society often encourages us to sacrifice those things in favor of what is supposed to give you 'long term happiness'. This results in most people living a lie in which they trade what they really want for the image of what society considers 'success'. It is no wonder that many people end up frustrated. Some of them end up saying - 'screw it all, I'd rather have an orgasm right now' (or some other instant gratification).

FWIW, I once placed all my hopes for happiness on the same things you mentioned - family, career, nice house, respect of my peers, etc. Nothing wrong with those things but they are not really what brings happiness. It was not until I seriously asked myself without any external influences or limitations 'What do I really want?' that I found what that was. When I did that, everything fell into balance, non-productive habits dropped away and I was truly happy.

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Venkat4111
 
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Reply Tue 23 Feb, 2016 03:42 pm
@oristarA,
Hi,
I found that there are very few websites and forums which discussed about over masturbation and their side effects. So I am the one who is suffering with over masturbation and I am sure no body got addicted to masturbation like me. I saw few sites explaining about these things and they are correct in terms of identifying the side effects.
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Venkat4111
 
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Reply Tue 23 Feb, 2016 03:49 pm
@saab,
Yes..I had these things in mind long back. Now everything is dominated by my health issues. But thanks all for your support and valuable answers to me. I owe a lot for you guys.But my only conern is about addiction. I just wanted to express my real health issues I faced because this. I should have gone through this forum long back when I started feeling ill. I could have got so many valuable advises and support from you people.
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Venkat4111
 
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Reply Tue 23 Feb, 2016 03:54 pm
@oristarA,
To say it straight away...

Masturbation is only considered a problem when it inhibits sexual activity with a partner, is done in public, or causes significant distress to the person. It may cause distress if it is done compulsively or interferes with daily life and activities.

That is what happened in my entire life starting from 11years old.
No body can save you if you addicted.
parados
 
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Reply Wed 24 Feb, 2016 02:02 pm
@Venkat4111,
It may cause distress but it won't cause lack of sperm, headaches, baldness, nerve weakness, severe weight loss, sight loss or memory loss or most of the others things you have mentioned.
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