Thank you for the ideas. Yea, it's truly devastating to learn that he's out there 3000 miles from me. As for getting in contact with my sons mother, we did have contact slightly. She still has the same cell phone. I received this new court order from the court and I sent her picture of a paragraph from the order as well as describing it to her as the court clerk told me to do and she responded back with a do not talk to me or I'll file for harassment. So, I'll never message her again because she really will.
I don't think it's a protection situation. Before I went away I fought through the courts and got joint custody and I had him more than she did. She knows I love my son dearly and I can be a great father (if I'm home). She has another kid too and what she does to both of her kids dads is use them for everything she can. She knows I have nothing right now so she wont let me see or talk to him.
I've told her I'm willing to talk to his "therapist" or whomever. I'm ok with therapeutic visitation to start with. She won't agree to that or even talk to me about it. She wants the control I guess.
My son turned ten on February 10th and I bought him some presents, so did my Mom, both brothers, and friend. The presents are still with me. I asked her what I should get him for his birthday and she told me he wants $36,179.92 (my arrears from my 5 1/2 years in jail). I asked for a picture and she sends me a picture of him hugging another man (I'm assuming her man, I don't know I don't ask). But, as you can see she just wants to hurt me and I don't know what to do. The court is of no help at all.
On another note, I guess I could file something with the court complaining of parental kidnapping since we had a divorce agreement through the court that she couldn't move him out of state without my consent. I think I violated the order by going to jail but I don't believe that two wrongs make a right. Just because I violated it does not give her the right to violate it. I doubt the judge would take that serious because the judge would have granted the move even if I fought it. Also, I don't want to make any problems for her. I just want to be a part of my sons life. So I need different ideas.
I'm currently drafting a letter to the court pleading for help. I don't know what else to do. Any ideas???