Here we go.
Basically the law is the same in Sweden (S) Denmark (DK) Norway (N) and Finland (F)
F: also includes penetration
N: Focus more on sexual intercourse
S.: Also takes in consideration the seriousness of the violation
DK: has taken away the "wife discount" which meant less punishment when it was the wife who was raped.
S: 2 - 6 years
N: 3 - 10 years
F: 1 - 6 years
DK: up to 8 years and in some cases up to 12 years
In Denmark about 500 rapes are reported to the police. There probably are between 2000 to 10.000 not repoted.
It seems like when you know the man as friend, exfriend, husbond or exhusbond and report him as a rapist it is seen upon as not a real rape.
I have the impression that a man can also rape a man. Theoretically a woman can rape a woman, but so far it has never been reported,