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Problem drinking?

 
 
begily
 
Reply Sun 30 Nov, 2014 06:39 am
I have recently gotten into a bad habit with drinking. Or at least I am not happy with the way I drink. I'm not sure if my drinking habit is considered to be a form of 'problem drinking'.
Basically whenever I go out with friends to bars and pubs etc, I can never seem to stop myself from drinking once I start. As soon as I have once, I just have to keep drinking until everywhere is shut and I'm forced to go home! That usually leads to me being out until 4:30-6:00 am. To add to this, after about four pints I usually smoke. I hate smoking and I gave up smoking regularly about two years ago, but whenever I drink a certain amount, I just give in.

This has been happening to me every time I go out for about the last three months. It's starting to make me quite unhappy. I feel guilty and angry at myself for not being able to know when enough is enough. I just want to be able to go out, enjoy myself, and then come home at a reasonable hour, having not smoked, so that I can get up the next day feeling like I had a good time, rather than feeling angry and stupid.
The hangovers are also monsters that last for two days!

I thought that would I need to do is set myself some goals for next time I get the opportunity to go out, like drinking only a certain number of drinks, making sure I'm home before 1:00.
Is this a good approach?

I've also thought about just stopping drinking all together. I didn't drink at all for the whole of October, and that was fine. But then when I went out again, I totally lost it, drinking until the early hours and smoking.

What can I do to get a handle on this?
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hingehead
 
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Reply Sun 30 Nov, 2014 06:58 am
@begily,
Seriously I have no idea. I don't think one person's prescription will necessarily work for anyone else.

I understand drinking leading to smoking. A habit I detested in myself. Cold turkey worked for me.

Can you tell how pissed you are as the night progresses? Maybe setting youself some rules, like when I start blathering I will drink two glasses of water?

I think drinking masks other insecurities. But that's just what my gut tells me.
begily
 
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Reply Sun 30 Nov, 2014 07:13 am
@hingehead,
Well in terms of insecurities, I know that when I'm out with friends, drinking acts to relax me a bit more than normal I suppose. I think alcohol in my mind is associated with being more relaxed and comfortable in certain social situations.

However I do not feel overwhelming or even noticeably uncomfortable in the company of my friends, but alcohol does seem to function to increase the quality of a night out for me.

In terms of noticing how pissed I am, I can tell up to a point, but after that point I just seem to switch to a kind of autopilot mode in which I am concerned only about drinking. It's like tunnel vision, all other thoughts that usually cross my mind, like money, how I am going to fell, what time it is etc, these just completely disappear, and I just focus on drinking more and more.

I have also tried to separate out my drinks with a pint of water between each one, but that approach has deteriorated rapidly.
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