Ok, that'll teach me to read all the posts before flying off the handle. I can sort of see some of your point, and you're not sick, but my responses to the remarks are the same; at least of they were made by such an insensitive parent as I thought you were, before reading all the posts anyway. kwim? I'll keep the rest of my response because it's how I originally felt.
As a parent, I do not feel it is humane or right to expect my 13 year old daughter to go through pregnancy, childbirth, and infant care. I am also against adoption of my blood.
But, if your child has developed the belief that abortion is wrong, then it's not your right to make the decision. Just as if she felt that abortion was a reasonable solution to a pregnancy caused by rape, and you didn't agree; she should have the right to terminate, and not be forced to live with the reminder and got through the pain(possibly worse than the original attack). Conversely, if your child believed that adoption is the appropriate solution, then it's still not your decision to make.
Do I, as a parent, with knowledge of this grand responsibility, have the right to make a decision of abortion, for a 13 year old daughter. I am her mother. She wont even clean her room, unless I force her to. I can't say that she would be a capable parent at all. She is too young and immature. There is also the life of the unborn to consider. What kind of life can she and boyfriend give? I know the answer to that! Nothing at all.
No. Instead you prepare her for the responsibility. She should be prepared for a great deal of responsibility by 13 anyway. She should be helping with chores, not because you nag her but because she was raised with a positive work ethic. True, at 13 she won't be able to go out and provide for herself, but you can help her and her boyfriend to become responsible parents. Then again they may choose to put a child up for adoption; it would be their choice, not yours.
As the parent of a minor child, shouldn't I have the right to decide what is best for my daughter and family? Do any of you honestly think that a teen can provide and be a parent to an infant without parental help? They can't.
While they are young, and pursuing their educations, teens may not have the financial means to provide for their children, but they can give them the love and attention that a children need.
We all know the problem of the infant or child, they will have no father at all. Do you all know just who this problem becomes? The maternal grandparent, like me. I should have every legal right to accept or reject this responsibility of life.
But you don't know for a fact that the child of teen parents won't have a father. These days teen fathers are becoming more a part of their children's lives. True, you shouldn't have to raise the child(if your child became pregnant), but you may have certain financial obligations for your child. You can also provide some tough love; letting her know that grandma won't be babysitting so she can go out and party, reminding her that care of the baby is her responsibility and if she neglects the baby you will report her to CPS, etc.
I should be able to force my minor daughter into abortion, for her and the unborn child's benefit. She has nothing to offer. I could, if I had the time to be a parent again. I believe every child should have two parents and where is the father going to be? Anywhere but with this girl and baby!! Boys can walk from responsibility. Girls can't.
That's like saying you should have the right to force her to get a hysterectomy or mastectomy because you have uterine or breast cancer. You don't have the right to have something so invasive, violating, traumatic, and permanent done to your child.
We are not talking about adults. We are talking about minors, ill equipped to raise a child and needing an education. Boys never really pay, but girls do.
Actually, we are talking about individuals that are (physiologically) young adults. A few centuries ago it wasn't unseemly for a 14-16yr old girl to be getting married and beginning a family. The only difference between girls then and now is education. True, it's not a good idea for one with a body that hasn't finished growing to become pregnant; it's a significant burden on a female body at any age. However, young ladies were taught their jobs by the time they were 13. Now they have a wider variety of paths they can take in life, but all young people should know the basics by 13. They should all know everything there is to know about reproduction, the risks of sexual activity, how to prevent disease and pregnancy, and actively practice those methods; there's a difference between not having sex because you're afraid you're going to get caught and actively practicing abstinence(or safer sex). Young people should know all the standard life skills. They should have a strong working knowledge of keeping a home and car in proper working order(maintenance & repair), developing and following budgets and menus, and proper shopping methods. My son(just turned 13) even has an in depth knowledge of gardening and animal husbandry; he can grow and raise his own food, as well as process it, and we've only lived in the country for a year.
As a parent of a 13 year old daughter, I would force her to abortion, for her future and feel I did the right thing. She knows nothing about parenting, being a kid herself. The teen father can offer nothing. I think life deserves better than this.
You would actually permanently damage your child in such a horrific manner and feel good about it? That has got to be one of the sickest things I've ever read.
I don't know what law is on this subject. I know that I am an adult mother of two children and single parent and how hard life really is. I would never give my life to my daughter because of stupidity of childbirth, which father's never really take responsibility for.
Maybe you should get some help for those negative feelings you have. You may pass on such negativity to your daughter. Perhaps you should teach her, in a positive way, why it's so important to abstain from sexual activity until she is truly ready to face the risks that come with it. You may also want to make sure that she is also well educated in the prevention of disease and pregnancy. Teach her about all the different methods, so that she can make an educated choice.
Who cares about the law on this one. I go for serious manipulation of a teen to give her a shot at life!!
What kind of "shot at life" is she going to have if she has been so horribly violated and betrayed by her own mother? You woud force a surgical procedure that nobody can agree whether is alright or not, you would take the right of self-determination from your own child, for what? Do you really think that a teenage girl would appreciate that you thought you knew what was best for her? Do you really think that she would take that "shot at life" the way you want her to? Do you really think she could concentrate well in her studies, and work toward a better life, when she would be spending so much time in therapy?
It could go way wrong. Let's used rape as an analogy. Say a young girl gets raped, oftentimes she reacts in one of three ways; she developes a hatred for men, she becomes promicuous(putting her reproductive and emotional health at serious risk), or she learns to cope and recognize that she did nothing wrong. If a parent forced an abortion on a teen girl she could react similarly; she could develope a hatred for her parent, she could become promiscuous and go on to have numerous abortions(putting her reproductive and emotional health at serious risk), or she could learn to cope and recognize that she did nothing wrong. It's an unfortunate fact the the learning to cope is the most difficult reaction, and as a healing process is the one that takes the longest. Usually, it happens that a girl goes through all three reactions; first she goes through a promiscuous phase while sort of hating guys, then goes through a time of actively disliking men(after she's enabled them to use her), and finally she copes with the reality. It's likely that in the case of a parent forcing abortion a girl would become promiscuous as a way to act out her hatred of that parent, then actively despise that parent and be tormented by a great deal of guilt, and finally recognize that her parent did do a horrific thing but maybe they thought it was best; of course, she should then just drop such a dispicable person from her life because they aren't worth the energy spent feeling so awful. It's so sad to think that you would actually feel good about damaging your own child, your own baby, like that.
Please, consider learning a bit about adolescent psychology before you do serious damage to the emotional health of your children, as well as damage to your relationship with them. Yes, it's sad that teens today are so ill-equipped for life, but that's not their fault; it's the fault of society for saying that they shouldn't be prepared, and their own parents for heeding such nonsense and not preparing them.