@maxdancona,
maxdancona wrote:
The biological process of pregnancy lasts only 9 months. Actually it is not that important in the grand scheme of things. Going through the process of pregnancy does not ensure that someone will be a good parent.
Parenting is far more important. Being a parent lasts a lifetime.
re the bolded sections above....Obviously.
I have always known I would not be a good parent, as well as not wanting children in the first place.
Why then, knowing I didn't want to go through 9 months of pregnancy, childbirth, or any part of child rearing or care, would I not want to be responsible for my own actions?
I don't want the baby, pregnancy, childbirth, child rearing, expense, or anything related to raising a child into adulthood, or then having a relationship to that adult.
Hence, it's my responsibility not to put myself in that situation.
In the case of making sure your partner takes their bc, it's not a matter of trust, it's a matter of forgetfulness. Anyone can forget, and if someone doesn't want to get pregnant, it's their responsibilty to make sure the other person doesn't forget.
That is so naive to suggest that because a person trusts another, that means that other person will unfailing do what they should, not even out of design, but accident.
My husband is on specific supplements and so am I. At night before bed we have a habit of asking each other if we remembered to take them. There are times when both of us say "whoops, I forgot", then go and take them.
Do we trust each other in life? Of course, we wouldn't have stayed together for decades if we didn't. Do either of us have unfailing memories? No.
Would I have ever allowed myself to get pregnant based on a "whoops, I forgot"? Of course not.
In fact, when we first decided to get intimate years ago, my husband told me he had a vasectomy. My response?...."Show me the scars."
Which he did.