I would first like to say the intent of this discussion thread is not to begin a debate about who's opinion is right or wrong; it is to encourage a dialogue and get one another thinking about other perspectives about the issue.
Have said that, reflecting back on something charlenem mentioned in her posting regarding the battered mom; how she may be in a position where she feels that she has no choice and no way out. Her and her child’s life could be endangered if she tries to leave. Dare I point out the individuals who have been killed by their abusers including Colleen Boyers of Pittsburgh, Amy Hargrove of Washington, and Hilary Saenz of Ellsworth? You questioned, “If you're having a choice made for you, are you not choosing to allow that to happen?” Did these women choose to let their abusers make their choices for them or did they have no choice?
As with many things in life, I think it is safe to say, there are exceptions to the rule, which is one of the reasons why we should not make assumptions about somebody's situation.