@BillRM,
"My my some woman must have given it to you big time"
There is a culture amongst some women to play very dirty and consequences for men on the receiving end are terrible.
It is a set of double standards and hidden agenda.
In every case i have left the woman in better shape than i found her , set up some good business's for some that they are still in, just because i felt it was right to do so for them. I remained whilst in the relationships faithful by choice.
In some cases women behave rather badly, not all.
Things like secretive abortions and deceit about their plans for the future cause grief for a man, especially when your clear in saying where you would like to go.
If your not heading in the same way just say so, please?
After spending ten years building up a business i got jerked around , many times i said for her to never contact me and let me lead my life in peace . After all it was her call to end it.
I ended up a wreck for some time.
I did learn from that, the next one i just never spoke to after we split.