I have been in a business for almost 40 years in which the involvement of lawyers is integral.
Personally I really like lawyers. The majority of the them are very much the sort of people with which I enjoy spending time.
However, the notion that they are anything but highly skilled hired guns in a conflict is rather naive.
Yes, they eventually end up as representatives in an agreement but not before they do all in their power to bring the opposition to its knees. If they don't, they haven't served their clients very well.
, this isn't a condemnation of lawyers.
Some have a problem with their defending the scum of the earth who we all know
are guilty. Not me. That's our system; that's their job; that's what they do.
Our legal system is adversarial, and this applies to every criminal and civil action. It's not centered on mutual agreement, but winning.
We can argue whether or not this is the way it should be, but, for now, it is what it is, and lawyers, rightfully, play the role that has been written for them.
It is up to us, not lawyers, to determine whether or not we want conflict or agreeably coming to terms.
Obviously there are times when you need a lawyer for defensive purposes, and most of them will serve you well in this regard (while billing you for hours spent - no problem there; they're making a living not providing charitable services), and sometimes you may need an attack dog to advance your rights, but too often people resort to lawyers and litigation when they should, at least, attempt, to resolve the problem themselves.
When your hire a lawyer, you are not
facilitating a mutually agreeable resolution.