Question linkie, are you not willing to pay the expense, or unable?
I'm trying to put myself in your daughters place, what she would be thinking.
I know you'd tell her in the best possible way, being a good parent and all.
It would more than cross my mind that I could only get to do something I really enjoyed if I was good enough (to your standards)
How would this affect how I felt about things in my future?
Investigate with her what's going on re her practice vs. game performance.
I just now thought that I have a story too.
In phys ed it was discovered I didn't exactly suck at running. I wasn't great, but wasn't horrible. I was good enough to try out. I made it, which thrilled me (I'm not into sports at all, I was happy because I felt like I was recognized/acknowledged)
We'd have practices, and again, I wasn't the fasted, and was nearer the bottom, but that was incentive for me to try harder, not to be last. Honestly, dope that I am about sports, I never even thought about track meets. I liked belonging, and didn't want to loose that.
I guess I missed one practice, but didn't think anything of it. The next Sunday, after church, I saw all the other girls on the team piling into a few cars. I asked Mary Ellen what was going on, and she said they were going to a track meet.
No one ever told me, and I felt like ****. I remember feeling desperate, wanting to tell my mom to quick take me home so I could get my clothes, as if anyone would still be there.
I've never had the eye of the tiger, but for a little while I was part of something, until I got the message no one was willing to "pay" for my presence.
BTW, I never was last.