Question to people who go to the movies on dates...

5. ask someone to scooch over one...



(the last time we went to a movie was 2005, so etiquette might be different now...)

Good answer RP though I'd bristle at the idea. I can be kind of territorial when it comes to my arbitrarily chosen movie theater seats.

I know its irrational and a tad mean spirited but in the back of my mind I'm thinking, "Ha! Maybe they should have gotten to the theater earlier." Probably need to work on that attitude a bit.

something to avoid doing in the theater...

If I went on a cinema date with someone and they, on learning there were no seats where we could sit together, preferred sitting separately to finding something else to do together, that would be the last date I would be having with them. Also they could find their own way home. A date is a date.

I'd try 5 first, but if it was a movie I really wanted to see, I'd go to 3.

I can't stand people who talk during movies so I wouldn't beplanning to talk to my 'date' during the movie - I'm not at the movie to sit with someone, I'm there to see the movie.

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Separately, I don't really 'get' movies as dates - they seem like a way to either avoid getting to know each other. I understand going to a movie with a friend or partner, but not as a date.

Maybe this is my inner Spock talking, but from what I've seen, people do very illogical things when finding a theater seat, then get annoyed later.

I've gotten to movies plenty early, then watch others seat themselves. As the theater fills I see again and again couple, threesomes, foursomes come in, walk down a row, and seat themselves with exactly one seat between them and the next party.

What's that all about? Especially when you know it's going to be a popular movie.
Doesn't make sense to get annoyed about being asked to move over, when you were the one that created the single seat problem.

Back to the question, with ticket prices today, I'd ask the box office to exchange my ticket for a different viewing, or different film.

but its great to have a date when you go see a scary movie - you can clutch their arm and kinda cuddle with them for safety.

boys don't like to sit in a seat directly next to another boy - they want to appear cool and not "gay".

girls like to sit next together so they can gasp and grab each others arms and be all girly and stuff.

couples like to sit next to each (or they'd prefer to share a seat) so they can be as close as possible.

young kids like to be next to their parents - for added comfort.

Older kids like to be in a different row from their parents.

Older couples want to be on opposites sides of theater

Me - I like to be next to the person I go with - no matter what combo above I am involved with - easier to reach the popcorn that way.

Or, talk about the movie afterwards at Nighthawks.


Re boys sitting next to each other, tough when it's a crowed theater.

I've edited above so you can see my whole thought on the subject - yeah that whole nighthawks could be included with this item as well.

I am small enough now that I can sit on your lap, too.

That is another option.

I can't remember having had a date at the movies. But I suppose, the etiquette is similar to that at the caterpillar rides ('music express')?

When I was a teenager, a movie date was a situation where a girl could safely enjoy letting a boy kiss her and feel her tits, but no more.

I remember a date - my date lost it -

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0062467/

Alan Arkin, Wait Until Dark.

Husband and I went to a zillion movies at an art theater, the Fox Venice. Mostly we were quiet and talked the movies later.

This kind of situations are extremely important for girls. There is obviously a problem and she will analyse how you solve it (if you're a man).
Let me be clear on the possible solutions:
1. going out of the cinema: weak, you shouldn't change your mind so easily, you wanted to see this movie, so you have to do it.
2. same as 1.
3. weak as well. You are clearly letting her alone, you are not protecting her, a.k.a she cannot see you as a real date
4. -

For me the perfect solution is to kindly but firmly ask some people to move so you two can have a seat. This is perfect in plenty of ways. It shows you are not afraid to calmly interact with people, that you know how to get what you want, and that you can solve problems that others cannot. Perfect.

Love dat show.

Probably because i lived in a small town in a rural area, going to the movies on a "date" meant the drive-in, where you could grope your date in relative comfort and anonymity. If you really wanted to see the movie, you went to a theater.

First 2 then 1.