@DrewDad,
I'm not talking about kids either DD.
But why are you commenting about someone having X amount of time doing anything, when you can't know if that's the proper amount for them?
How do you know someone is making a trade off, unless they tell you?
You putting forth comments like "they don't spend a lot of time doing XYZ" then backing up and saying "But I wasn't saying that wasn't right for them" doesn't mean anything then.
Of course there are trade off's in life, I think everyone knows that. I sure do. Even doing the thing you enjoy most as aspects that are not so great. Duh.
That said, I guess I'm not sure at all what you were getting at.
People you know don't spend as much time as you do with their kids, gardening, at the titty bar, whatever....., or maybe they spend more, but you're not saying there's anything wrong with that.....you were just saying. Somehow you connect that with theirs, and yours, financial success. You don't even know if these people you bring up are rich, or living on credit cards.
So far I hear you saying different people spend different amounts of times doing different things....and that they may or may not be happy with that.
Maybe some people you know work more, make more because they're supporting a mistress, or taking drugs, and it has nothing to do with money at all.
No, you didn't say this, and you didn't say that. I'm really trying to figure out what you ARE saying. Besides you like to take your kids to the pool.
What are you actually saying DD?