Helfino, but some general observations -
- Some people do not get social cues so they don't even realize they are making someone uncomfortable
- Others do not know when to quit or tone it down, so either their behavior is inappropriate or it becomes that way
- Yet others get pleasure out of twisting the knife, jumping on weaknesses and making others squirm
- And others have an agenda, a hobby horse they ride, no matter what
- There are the ones who cannot let their argument guard down even for the sake of simple humanity, e. g. to offer condolences or take a bit of good-natured ribbing
I have seen all of these online in the decade or so that I've been on forums. Plus of course I see them in person as well. For forums, I've found that #1 is kinda unfortunate although some of them, after some real talking-tos, can figure it out. For #2 types, some of that can go away over time as people get used to a site and its players, and form relationships. For #3 types, I've never liked this, and I think that ignoring them is often the way to go, and starve them out of attention for such boorish behavior. For #4 types, that's also a case for ignoring - oh, not again/here we go again. Well, just ignore them. I mean, if you're going to talk about the New York Mets and this person is just gonna spout off about global warming, and you're tired of hearing it, why open their posts at all? Finally, with #5 types, I think those dismay me the most. I am not saying that we all must suddenly speak well of the dead, or share pics of our pet ocelots or whatever, but it's those shared experiences that make us all human under the skin. And someone who is incapable of letting a topic about the Mets actually be about the Mets, and join in, and laugh, or cannot comfort someone who is feeling down, well, I have trouble with that because it seems to be a basic flaw in their humanity, IMHO.