damn is right. i wish i could say she's just unreasonable or hysterical, but no, it's the real thing. i suspect a lengthy messy divorce is ahead, though neither of them will want to hurt the other. it's just that the property will get complicated.. but who cares, i can't stop thinking about my nephew. he's 4 1/2, won't understand the least of it, my heart is breaking for him.
That really sucks. So sorry.
Sorry about your sister, Dag. And your nephew. Hire some thugs to whip hubby's ass. He deserves it.
Well, he sure shouldn't have gone that far. But what do you do if the love whithers away. I guess something would have happened sooner or later.
Not if he was decent about it, Dag. Relationships end sometimes, but families don't have to blow up over it.
Echoing Nimh...Damn.
Ugh... 4 1/2? Double ugh.
Impressed with your sister's strength, anyway.
yes, she says she's relieved. there was a tense situation since july - suspicion, jealousy.... we'll see how it goes. she is strong. she has the right head
Did he admit to all? I mean, it seems like there could be some possible innocent explanations for what was actually observed, and the stakes are so high...
uhmmm. they didn't open the door for a long while, plus he did pack up and leave when she asked him without saying much. i don't think he would have if it was all an innocent misunderstanding.
i don't know much though. she isn't up for talking much yet. she talks to mom - who's also a family therapist by profession. so i only know tidbits from her. i sent an email (sis is in San Fran, far far away) offering to call whenever she's ready. but i know her, it's final. it's been brewing for awhile.
Awww...
My Relationships & Marriage side is stirring (maybe he just packed up and left because he could tell her mind was made up and there was nothing he could do about it and that dynamic itself played into problems they'd already been having) and I'm trying not to identify (4 1/2!) so I'm looking for ways they might be able to work it out...
But yeah.
That sucks.
Sorry, Dag. That's a really tough one.
Sorry for your nephew, dag. That's very sad for him. But, if the breakup has been coming for a while, as you suggest, them maybe his home life has has been rather tense for a while? <sigh>
Oh, Dag, I'm so sorry to hear this news. Your sister's a strong person and I'm sure S is as well, he comes from such strong stock (on one side of his family, at least).
I came here to say that I G&Gd after reading eoe and BorrisKitten's posts about their respective pasts.
My past? What made you G & G about my past???
eoe, I was refering to your description of the effect of HIV/AIDS on your industry.
Right now I am livid on my housemate's behalf. HM#1 is an amazing woman, she's bright, fun, gorgeous, good, generous, etc etc. She fell for a player. He said, after a long time during which they spoke of getting together, but didn't, that he'd change for her, so they started dating. She asked him several times in several ways if he had stopped seeing the rest of the women, he said he had. We often talked about him and I kept telling her she had to believe him because lying to her could mess up his career (they work together and, well, it's that kind of work place). Well, the shite just hit the fan and boy is it stinky.
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!
I am seething and kinda also feeling like what did I do bad?
I had a meeting yesterday with the bosses of my sister program (they take the twelve and ups, I the 11 and downs) about who should take a particular kid, who is 11 years and 11 months, and being quite predatory.
Anyhoo, from my POV, as a new person, it was a good chance to talk feely and figure out how to work things. I thought he fell into their milieu, but I wasn't at all gung ho about it.
One of the boss type folk I was talking to is (I discovered) a guru type, who (almost certainly unconsciously) takes on (habitually, I discovered, cos I have been checking) a consultant/educative role.
I don't DO gurus, unless I have determined them to have expertise I really value and want, and then they are gurus until I "get" it, and peers thereafter.
This man does not fall into that category (I have been trained in his guru area, and moved beyond it, though I am very ready to respect his work.)
Anyhoo, he tried to do teacher, I did not do student, and the dynamics were AWFUL. And unutterably weird. And I am not sure what to do about it, since we have to get on. My instinct is always to approach these difficulties head on, but I am not sure how useful that is.
Need to take time to stop seething about attempts to patronize me, (and he, presumably, to recover from their failure, though I kept my temper, and just got awfully, awfully quiet in my speech, which is a danger sign) and figure out how to address it.
Sigh...I am awfully unsubtle, and I just wanna call him and say" "Let's just REALLY have it out, no holds barred, AND NO GODDAMN JARGON, and be friends after, cos we are both damn fine people in our work. I respect you, but if you play covert power games with me, I will kick your balls in, until you holler 'nuff. But no hard feelings."
But do not think he is aware of his power games, bless him.
And I am doubtless just as blind to whatever I did.
Damn human interaction!
Nothing, life is beautiful!
littlek wrote:eoe, I was refering to your description of the effect of HIV/AIDS on your industry.
Oh yes. From the other thread. That was definitely a G & G time.
