two girls should i stop or try for the boy

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my mother and father devorced when i was 2 yrs old my father remarried at the time i was his only child now he has 6 daughters i am his only son to carry the family name i am now married and have two daughters of my own my wife wants one more child but i am unsure i see my father and notice he has a hard time living with all females and when i visit him he seems to run to me so we can spend some guy time away from the girls i know he hopes for me to try for the boy but i am unsure about having too many girls like him i love my daughters they are my princesess i dont think i can love them same way i can love a son and i too want my last name to carry on i have spoken to my wife and any choice i make will be discused further right now i would just like input on the situation. Thank you.

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@cuervo ,

If your financial and emotional situation will stretch that far, I would say to try for a boy - wife being willing, I mean.

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@cuervo ,

Our planet just surpassed 7 billion people. What happens if your third child is a girl? Go for a fourth? If that's a girl? Then a fifth? Can you support a large family?

Continuing ones last name as historical legacy is a bit of obsolete sentimentality.

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@cuervo ,

Perhaps I find the idea of "carrying the family name" medieval, but I don't think a woman shouldn't be able to do so. I use my family name more than my married name and I am a woman. Children can legally pick what last name they want to use and pass on. I think if you really want a male child you should adopt a baby boy.

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@Green Witch,

Adoption? Win/win idea!

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@cuervo ,

If you want a third child and your wife wants a third child and you can afford it both in terms of money and time, go for it. Daughters and their fathers seem to form a powerful bond that is unique to that of fathers and sons or mothers and daughters. If you get another girl count your blessings; it's no bad thing.

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@cuervo ,

Seeing that your post has no period, in a few months the expectant baby will soon answer the question.

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@cuervo ,

First off - you should only have additional children if you and your wife both want them and can take care of them. If you really want to keep the family name - why not have one of your daughters use their middle name as your family name? And really how important is it to have a family name?

I have two girls and am perfectly happy with the two (even though I was used to boys having all brothers growing up). After the second was born, my husband immediately turned to me and said should we try for a third - meaning maybe a boy for the third. My answer - well you could end up like your brother if we keep trying - (he has 5 girls - no boys). That shut him up.

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@Green Witch,

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I think if you really want a male child you should adopt a baby boy.

Great idea -what my husband and I discussed if we felt we were financially able for a third.

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No one can really answer this except you.

I hate these kinds of questions. We don't know your financial situation. We don't know how badly you want another child. We don't know how important it is for your family name to continue.

What is your answer to your question?

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@cuervo ,

cuervo wrote:

. . . i love my daughters they are my princesess i dont think i can love
them same way i can love a son and i too want my last name to carry on . . .

My input: Stop. Please.

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@Ragman,

You should patten this new idea for a pregnancy test! No periods in a post = baby on the way.

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@Butrflynet,

That. would. certainly. change. how. we. do. punctuation.

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@engineer,

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im a US Marine. financialy yes i can. so i guess i will. when i return from Afghan ill probably start trying for the boy.
I hate the internet here i wrote a long response and when i pressed reply my net had been loged off sending me striaight to the log on page and loseing all my progress so this is the short version with out enogh periods ! sorry

- Mr Crow.

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@cuervo ,

First - thank you for your service. Second, your poor girls when they get older (I know this hubby was in the Marines and we have two girls) - but if you are like my husband all you have to do is look at a boy that shows the least bit of interest and they will be in fear for their lives!

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@cuervo ,

Oh and I almost forgot -

Happy Marine Corp Birthday!

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@cuervo ,

cuervo wrote:

i love my daughters they are my princesess i dont think i can love them same way i can love a son and i too want my last name to carry on

You think you would love a son more than you would love another daughter?

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@Linkat,

Thank you so much the Cake they had here was not too bad

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@ehBeth,

not what i ment although it may sound that way i ment i would not love them the same way not more or less. think of your favorite food, now think of your favorite pass time both are your favorite and you may even be able to do them at the same time, but you wouldnt say you love one more than the other would you?

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