How can we be sure that we really love someone?

don't know if you can be 100% sure

there are no money back guarantees.

The only way to be really sure you love someone is to have blind faith in it. And blind faith is stupid. Therefore love is stupid. Therefore you have to be stupid to be in love.

That is the only way you can really be sure.

it's kinda like plumbing.

it usually works good till it doesn't.

and then there's a big mess to clean up...

And some times you just have to jiggle the handle a little.

If one defines love as the desire for the well being of an other, then if you desire well being for that person then love them. Gradations of love come into play based on how strong the desire is.

If it occurs to you to wonder whether you truly love someone, maybe you don't.

I don't know that you can ever be 100% sure, or that it really matters, actually ...

But if the relationship works for you (& the object of your affection, too, of course!) then why not go with it?

when you know that you can be best friends with that someone

no if ands or buts

That is an odd question. Are you just getting cold feet? You didn't say if you're getting married, or what. Why not just ask yourself if you love him/her, or don't. You're sure to get the right answer.

If you're willing to be solely with them and are not tempted away by others, or the thought of being with others is unimaginable, it's likely you love them. If asking yourself 'do I love them?' isnt enough, then ask yourself, 'would I die for them?' If you have to think about it, you don't love them.

Plus, if you're asking yourself if you love them, you don't love them.

First of all, you have to know what love is and what it is not. There are two methods of approaching this. Indirectly, and directly. Indirectly,
Is love immortal, or not? If it is, it is not emotion. Desire is emotion, but love is something different. Often desire destroys love.

Directly, a thing is not different from itself. One must have a definition of what one is and what one is not--otherwise your actions contradict what you are for.

We are mind. Definition.
The human mind is that environmental acquisition system which must acquire experiences of the environment and abstract from those experiences forms of behavior and apply them to human expression such that we maintain and promote the life of the body.

Thus love, to comply with what we are, would be
Love is all the things that two people do together to maintain and promote their life.

Love then, is not something that one person does, it is something two people do together.

Desire is often the flame that destroyes love. In the name of desire, we destroy our families, homes, loved ones. Sad situation. The worst of all, is we call this desire, love. The Cosmic Sad Joke.

You make that choice every day.

A very hot, romantic love can sweep you away - cause you to lose your appetite, forsake all others, struggle to adapt to the needs and desires of another person, to sacrifice for them... Months later, that passion may dissipate. He may be the same person, but time or something he did or said may cool your love. At that point, you make a conscious decision: Will I continue to show the same love, or will I respond to the cooling of emotion by treating him differently or leaving?

Love can begin as an emotion, but evolve in to action: It's eggs his way in the morning; it's biting your tongue when he's wrong because you're the strong one this afternoon... In most long term relationships, love is something you do for each other because you decided to maintain loving treatment of each other when you feel like it and when you don't. If you faithfully show love even after you cease to feel it in that former overwhelming, pure way, many times, the feeling will return like waves to the shore. With each ebb you survive showing love, the return is richer, deeper.

Like kicky said - it is blind faith, which is a stupid thing for a rational person to consider. It opens you up to the possibility of horror, mistreatment, and any number of nightmarish scenarios which can crush your soul.

Of course, the other things it can open you up to are the reason rational people so often take the risk.

Just decide.

Nice post Lash.

Especially the waves part!

Really, - well said.

Thank you, darlin.

Its a function of the conscious mind, the same as choice of political candidates.
Hence, if u don't know it, then u do not love someone.
If u did, then u 'd know it, the same as being hungry; obvious.





David

That makes no sense. Obviously, if u love someone u must KNOW it.

Its not like being unsure about your blood pressure.





David