@littlek,
Two things I take away from watching littlek struggle with migraine last Saturday:
1) The migraine's effects must have been much more dramatic from the inside than they appeared from the outside. I wouldn't have noticed them except for two minor things: First, littlek avoided looking out of the window and into the light. But when I offered to swap chairs with her so she could look away from the window, she declined. So I figured---falsely I guess---that the glaring couldn't have been
that bad. The only other thing I kind of noticed was that littlek was sometimes reaching for words. But I wouldn't have recognized it as unusual if she hadn't pointed it out to me. After all, who doesn't occasionally say "um" and think of the right word to say? But littlek felt she struggled with it, and that drew my attention to it.
Everything else I only know because she reported the symptoms as they came up. As far as I was concerned, I had an enjoyable conversation about a fascinating subject, and had to consciously remind myself that the subject seriously affected littlek.
2) Speaking of the fascinating subject: It is only now that I notice migraines are fascinating. That's strange because both of my sisters have migraines, and so does my mother, occasionally. But I never thought to ask either of them about any specifics about their migraine experience. We just have this rule in the family that as soon as someone says she has a migraine, she will retreat to her room to suffer in silence and darkness, and it's everybody else's job to a) not make noise and b) do whatever the afflicted family member asks of them. I never knew migraines came with such startling visual effects. I guess I'll make some family phone calls to ask around.