@Drnaline,
There is a HUGE difference between the concepts of FEAR and RESPECT.
I did not respect my father for kicking my butt because it showed he did not know what else to do. Only a simple person resorts to violence. My father was a big disciplinarian - today it would be considered abusive. Today I no longer fear my father but I also do not really respect him either.
FEAR: Fear can be described by different terms in accordance with its relative degrees. Fear covers a number of terms - worry, anxiety, terror, fright, paranoia, horror, panic (social and personal), persecution complex and dread.
RESPECT: Respect is the esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person, a personal quality or ability, or something considered as a manifestation of a personal quality or ability: I have great respect for her judgement.
One is very negative and the other is very positive. Some people do not understand the positive so they must use negative to control.
Like I said - I will never worship a deity that I have to fear. If the deity uses fear to motivate then he is not a very good deity.