Marriage Culture

I'm not so sharp in these things, I may speak entirely out of ignorence, but here's my shot.

Think it's a bit of flok instinct, the need of grouping together, form friendship and bonds, the need for perpetual providing for the baby, it would be very inconvienent if the provider ran off all the time, sure there are such, but fortunaly very few, that's where the compassion instinct kicks in, providing for the flock, those you may not have any direct relation to.


Hehe, an issue that has been since dawn of man, just look at the old scribture of Lillith and Eve. Lillith was actually the first woman and considerd herself equal to Adam, because they were created from the same earth/clay?, thus wouldn't be submissive to Adam, they bickerd alot.

Then God created Even who were submissive, thus no bickering with Adam.

1) many western women get high education, or have a good understanding of human behaviour and it's psycoligically effects, thus realizing a man can be selfish, incompetent, lazy, stupid ..etc, where as many eastern women will be extremely submissive and belive in certain values that overwrite the understanding of shortcomings in man.

2) most western women will demand reason and logic, where such things are not demanded from eastern women, defending honor, pride and lineage are more valued.

3) in west reason and logic are not taught, only vaguely hinted, but in a selifsh way in the west, usually it is only taught from friends who will tell you anything you want, and rarely tell you no, you are an idiot doing this and that.

and i am pretty sure statistics also show that women without partners, whether single, divorced or widowed, do way better than women with partners or single men...could be lots of reasons for that of course...



the thing about a woman being submissive is a cultural thing. and also comes from the time when men were the providers, which they still are in many countries, but not in the west. so now they have reached the point in america where men and women realize they dont need each other for anything...but they also arent happy alone. so how to start over and find a way of relating to each other in some way that works?

me, i have always been the submissive type-but it doesnt work out well with the western man, because he thinks that type of woman is a fool and he has no respect for her.

back in the day when i was in school, most women did not go to college and just became a 'housewife' and the husband was not exactly the big boss of the family, but the woman simply didnt take any interest in financial matters or political ideas, or anything that related to the world outside of her home. trust me, it really was like that in america too not that long ago. things have certainly changed.

it is very funny to see the rate at which india is catching up-for instance, now women are working as well in the big cities, but they still do all the household stuff-there is a major blowup waiting to happen. and yes, divorce is now beginning to catch on. there are even matrimonial ads for divorcees, when there is still a part of the culture that wont even allow a widow or widower to remarry.