@jeeprs,
"I am 44 now; with my health I do not expect to double it. I always worked hard like a good Calvinist, but now it is my turn to ask for support. Let me rephrase that: I demand support. It's my right as a Dutch citizen. I have paid my taxes, employed people and supported good causes. For 10 years I did not say much about it, but realize it only damaged myself. I am balanced enough, but get unbalanced by breach of justice. I cannot let it go by running. As a lawyer I feel I have to stand up for my rights. About time..."
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This sounds like mid-life crisis to me. I went through that phase, it was like a second adolescence when you feel there must be more to life than what society offers or demands...a feeling of injustice and estrangement vis-a vis society, then you learn to know yourself for real and a more serene attitude develops towards life and society.
One thing I found out is that pleasure is the key to everything, Nature's golden rule. I realised that every imperative in life is accompanied with pleasure. We must reproduce as a species and so there is pleasure in sex. We must eat so we find pleasure in eating, sleeping is also pleasant. We find pleasure in work and there is also pleasure even in altruism. So I see as potential health hasard whatever does not provide some pleasure. If I know I won't have fun in a family reunion for example I won't go even if it's Xmas. That is why I don't think it is good to force ourselves to do what we think is right, like exercising when we don't feel like it or going on a diet because we don't meet current standards. Smoking for example is bad for health and the first time we try it we don't feel pleasure and some will stop there while others will violate their bodies and gradually find some pleasure in smoking until they realise they are hooked and there is no more pleasure. Then they will make the mistake of trying to stop smoking drastically, violating their bodies once again the opposite way. Many people die young anyways even if they stop smoking and there is this theory that stopping to smoke can be dangerous for heavy smokers and that they must do it very gradually because the body is accustomed to fighting the agression of smoke and if that agression ceases suddenly the body is still on an agressive-defensive mode and will sort of attack itself in the absence of the agrressor (the smoke).
Pepjin is right I think, most of our mental and physical illness are socially related. My own recipe for mental and physical health is to feel free even if I am not absolutely free, I need to feel that I am by keeping social obligations to a minimum and by not being fearful and by not tolerating any authority over my head. I also take some time every year to let go of my humanity (my social identity), and reconnect with my "animal nature". I go to my country house in the wild alone and just live like an animal, I eat simple raw food, I sleep whenever I feel like it and I just roam about mostly naked and observe nature. I howl to the moon...the last time I made friends with a small snake. She would come in front of my door, and raise her head and move her tongue (but one day my husband who did not know she was my guest, killed the poor thing), anyways, after about 10 days I come back to civilisation relaxed and feeling good.
I noticed S.S. started this thread just before Xmas. There are particular times like New Year or our birthdays when we feel the urge to change, become better, then we gradually go back to our little old selves we are accustomed to. So in conclusion I would say we must learn to take care of ourselves not by obligation but because there is pleasure in goodness and our only obligation is to enjoy life, that's when we are at our best and can help others enjoy life too.