I dont think you have to be necessarly angry to stand up for yourself. But I'd rather be assertive then passive.
I don't think not being angry means being a complete passive doormat and letting anyone walk on you.
But being honest, i see no survival origin for anger and it only brings us negative effects.
I myself play sports alot better when I'm angry.
Yes, anger does give more strength but if your not going to do anything physical, then its seems useless and pointless. For those that think it is a defense mechanism, you can get anger by stupid and petty things, things that pose no threat what so ever. Anger may want to make you physical but that could just be wasted energy. If not in a situation that calls for physical defense, anger only clouds up your mind and makes you irrational.
After giving this some thought, i believe that anger, hatred, grudges, ect. have no positive effects whatsoever. I haven't looked up any substantial philosophical references to this subject matter so excuse me if some of this has been said already. Mainly, it is very easily to be angered by something but in the end, anger and hatred seem to only bring negative effects. Obviously this isn't easy but if we were to control our emotions, we could always have clear thought, i any situation. All of our thoughts and actions would be rational and not out of anger and frustration. This is obviously easier said then done, but anger is in fact a mental idea. Does anger help relieve stress or even unwanted emotions? It might but again, all of these are mental and can be completely controlled by us if we are disciplined enough.
It just seems like being frustrated is something that can very easily be done and we can slip into anger uncontrollable. But being honest, i see no survival origin for anger and it only brings us negative effects. Hatred and grudges towards, people, ideas, anything is not beneficial whatsoever. This is not to say you should avoid people that you do not like or have done harm to you but this does not mean that you should hate them or hold grudges against them. Grudges seem to make everything worse and people bitter and cold which is not what we'd like.
Anyway, i was just wondering the purpose for anger and why there is so much hatred among us.
helps to understand the source
The Golden Rule, rules, so be careful of what you put out there in this give-and-take reality.
I feel that anger and hatred can be usefull in the context of the fact that their presence demands attention and maintinence, and if properly dealt with lead to further insight into oneself.