ADOPTED RUSSIAN BOY REJECTED, IN SELF DEFENSE

parents can adopt children
parents can divorce children (apparently ??)
children can divorce parents
children can adopt parents ?? (perhaps one day)

Yes; in effect: she divorced him (with good reason).

Not even a biological son is tolerable
when he turns his attentions and intentions to malice against his benefactor

I cannot venture to guess whether that is sufficient
to arrest the inflamatory practices of pyromaniacs.
In some cases, drugs have been necessary to effect
cures; in other cases, no cure has been possible with currently available technology.

David

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Not even a biological son is tolerable
when he turns his attentions and intentions to malice against his benefactor

You are quite right, threatening or menacing behavior should not be tolerated. It should be properly evaluated and treated.

Nancy Hansen, the boy's adoptive grandmother, rejected claims that her daughter had abandoned the child. She said he was watched by a United Airlines flight attendant and that the family paid a man $200 (£130) to pick the boy up at the Moscow airport and take him to the Russian education and science ministry.

Nancy Hansen of Shelbyville, said the boy was violent and angry with her daughter. "He drew a picture of our house burning down, and he'll tell anybody that he's going to burn our house down with us in it," she said. "It got to be where you feared for your safety. It was terrible."

She said a social worker checked on the boy in January and reported to Russian authorities that there were no problems. But after that, the grandmother said incidents of hitting, kicking and spitting began to escalate, along with threats.

"This child is mentally unstable. He is violent and has severe psychopathic issues."

We don't know the complete story.

The russian people say before the adoption the boy was checked mentally and phisically and the results were OK.

After that he travelled to the US wiht his "new mother",
six months later he is rejected in that horrible way, alone in an interconental fly with just a note... very awful.

Sometimes I think that she is not mentally OK.

If she wanted sending him to Russia ...
Why she didn`t go with him ?

She acted cowardly.

why she didn't go with him?? please, he is justs a 7 years old child.. She acted in a cowardly way...

I cannot venture to guess whether that is sufficient
to arrest the inflamatory practices of pyromaniacs.
In some cases, drugs have been necessary to effect
cures; in other cases, no cure has been possible with currently available technology.

David

But you do know that you are talking about a 7 year old CHILD????

Well, technically, he is not JUST a 7 year old child; he is ALSO an arsonist.

Are u saying that makes it easier to restrain
his pyromaniacal obsession ?

I read elsewhere that he had actually been starting fires,
so his incendiary thawts found their way into the real world.

Maybe u can invite him to your house, Walter.

Well, technically, he is not JUST a 7 year old child; he is ALSO an arsonist.

Not even a biological son is tolerable
when he turns his attentions and intentions to malice against his benefactor

You are quite right, threatening or menacing behavior should not be tolerated.
It should be properly evaluated and treated.

What this woman did is inexcusable.

You don't put a young child on a plane by himself and send him back to another country--for any reason.

The biological mother may have been an alcoholic, so this child
may suffer from some degree of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, or other
neurological impairment, which may predispose him to behavioral problems,
particularly problems with impulse control.

Severe impulse control problems can be associated with
explosive aggressive outbursts and behaviors like fire setting.

These behaviors can be very difficult for a parent to manage--that is why
they require professional intervention. Professional intervention would address treatment
of the child's behavior as well as advising the parent on how to manage it.

When you adopt a child, you are the one who becomes responsible for the child.
If the child displays psychiatric problems or behavioral problems,
you are the one responsible for seeking evaluation and treatment for the child.

Do we know whether this woman ever got evaluation or treatment for this child?

This woman had the option of voluntarily placing the child in foster care, in this country. By moving to do so, she would have involved Family Court in the situation. That would have resulted in evaluation of the child, proper diagnosis of the problem, and a treatment plan. The Court could then have the child placed in an appropriate foster care setting or treatment facility if the child placed a risk to others, or have him simply removed from the home if the adoptive mother's behavior toward him was abusive, or if she simply couldn't manage him.

A larger issue in all of this is whether the Russian agency sufficiently informed this woman of the child's background and any existing behavior problems prior to the adoption. A prospective adoptive parent should know these things.

I am reminded of the past flurry of adoptions from Romania when many adoptive parents found themselves with children with rather severe problems due to the past conditions of these children's lives.

Another issue is the fact that this sort of adoption, of an older child from a foreign country, can be extremely stressful for the child, particularly for a child who may not have adequate coping mechanisms to begin with. The child is removed from a world that is familiar to him--including his language, the foods he eats, his familiar caretakers, whatever attachments he has formed--and is placed in a strange new environment. This alone can trigger serious behavior problems in the child, and if the adoptive parent doesn't understand this, or fails to get appropriate professional help, or responds inappropriately, these problems intensify and escalate.

No matter what the situation was in this case, what the adoptive mother did, by putting that child on the plane, was wrong. She violated her state laws regarding child abandonment. She should be punished for that. She had other options and she should have used them.