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sounds like he is exhibiting risk taking behavior.

offer wilderness experiences, bungee jumping, long term student exchange to a foreign countries, crewing a sail ship. time out camps.
anything that will get him out of his comfort zone.

How long until his next birthday ?

I don't think you're allowed to do those types of things with foster kids, dadpad.

Most 17 year olds are going to push limits. What limits is he pushing? Breaking curfew? Hitting you? Is it normal teen behavior or is it abuse?

How long has he been with you?

Have to talked to his caseworker?

Is he seeing a therapist? He's about to age out of the system, make sure you find him all the help available to him before he does.

If he's been with you a while and you've had a good relationship he may be pushing limits as a way to protect himself emotionally when he does age out.

Good luck. I hope you can find some help to make it work out. Getting sent back from foster care is really hard on kids.

Please speak to your/his social worker before you give up on him. He's
17 years old, all right, but he's had much to deal with including the death of
his mother. He probably doesn't know how to channel his anger and needs
reinforcement and help in how to deal with set backs in life. The scars from
physical abuse will be with him for the rest of his life and he needs you to teach
him how to cope and how to receive, accept and give love. If you give up on
him now, you just reassure his original way of thinking. I know it's hard, but
please don't give up on him - seek help through social services and support
groups for foster parents. Help is out there!

my wife and i met with his social workers and decided to give him one more chance,but has to change his attitude towards everyone in the home.he doesn`t want to go to another foster home.he calls my wife mom,giving up on him is not an easy decision.he agreed to follow the house rules. We hope that it works for all of us.

Welcome back, 501bob. Good luck with this.

I am glad you have decided to give him another chance. You have done right
and you're good people. Much luck to all of you! Thank you for the update
too, that was nice of you.