rufio wrote:Don't think of it like "the goal is to feel good". Think of it as "you do it because it feels good". Same sentence, but it sounds much better now, doesn't it? All altruistic acts (and indeed, anything that is purposeful) is selfish like that. If things didn't feel good, we wouldn't do them. We're not going in circles. You're just not reading my posts.
Katuu, when I talk about selfless and selfish, I am using more exact definitions than your dictionary. I mean what I say, and nothing more. Every time you want something, your motive is for yourself. You can say that your motive is the thing you want, but that doesn't change the fact that the reason that is your motive is because it brings you pleasure.
Do you think of all possibilities before you post? What about the possibility that something may not feel good when you choose to do it? How about going to the dentist? This is something you chose to do and by YOUR definition selfish, but ...it sure can be painful...and does it bring you pleasure (although note that since usually the motive driving someone to go to the dentist would be selfish since it has to do with reasons central to themselves, such as YOURSELF is in pain and YOURSELF needs help)?
Those were not my definitions, those were definitions written by people before us which, besides the logic of the fact that the motive is what classifies an effort as selfish or not and that motive can be either concerned with yourself or someone else, is enough proof for me that there was a use for these words...meaning that selflessness is possible. Period.
How do you deny that a motive can be selfless if a motive is what drives you to do something (or makes you WANT to do something as you say it)...not forgetting that the motive may be something that has to do with someone other than yourself.
BTW, what are your definitions of selfish and selfless??
Do you deny that a motive is what drives us to do something, whether we choose to do it or not? There must be a reason behind why you choose to do something. If you don't disagree with that, then bu all logical means, you must understand that this reason, or motive, behind why we do something can be "selfless" by definition (which is to bring someone elses needs to the forefront whether it makes you feel good or not).
katuu