The problem that made me think about full custody is that recently it was believed that his father walked out on his mother and the kids again, but really he was in jail. He has walked out so many times by boyfriend doesn't even know how many times its been.
The time before there was a problem with his father my boyfriend had told me he was done with all of this, it was time for his mother to handle things, he couldn't keep getting drawn into it he had his own family now. Well about 3 weeks ago when the time came to let his mother handle things he jumped right back in the middle of it. Then we had a fight cause his father has a drinking problem and maybe a drug problem he hides his addictions really well that no one knows for sure, but the point is I said I didn't really want his father around our son, I don't think he is responsible or a good person to have in our son's life. He disagrees not because he cares about his father seeing him but because that would mean making his mother go out of her way to see him. So all the values and things we had talked about before our son was born has just gone out the window. I asked what if something happens his whole family thinks his father is sick but he told me that is a chance he was willing to take.
So yes this was all thought about and talked about before having a child together but now when the time comes to do something about it he wants to turn the other cheek. I want to do this not just out of the fact that I am all ready the one who does everything for our son but also for the safty of my son. You might think a I am over reacting but I have had friends that were abused or grew up in a messed up family, and I don't want that life for my son. I'm not going to ever be able to give him much but I want to know that I've always done my best and given it my all to see to the best life that he could get.