okay here's my problem; just weighed myself with a heavy sweatshirt and jeans the scale read 163.
Next time, weigh yourself without the sweatshirt and jeans, if you can (e. g. if it's a public scale, you can at least take off the sweatshirt. You want to get as accurate a reading as possible. Plus, you don't say how tall you are. If you were 5'9", for example, 163 would be normal weight. See: http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/
im on a soccer team and we practice twice a week for 2 hrs and 1 game a week for about an hour and a half. i have gym at school every other day for 45 mins. on average i run 3 to 5 miles a week in the fall and in the winter about 2 to 4 but participate in other sports such as skiing and basketball.
These are all excellent, but you might want to add some weight training. It can (and should start off this way) be small. Ask your gym teacher about it as s/he can give you better, more personalized than we can. Also, talk to your doctor and just clear it with him or her. It's probably perfectly fine but you really should at least mention it.
i eat fairly healthy. for breakfeast normally i eat a piece of fruit and coffee or juice.
Eat more for breakfast (oatmeal or a non-sugary cereal is good, an omelet if you can get it). It will help to fuel you for the day.
on the weekend waffles or pancakes.
That's generally rather sugary fare, particularly if you add syrup. Again, try an omelet instead, or at least alternate a bit. You probably should mix up the eating a bit.
since my school serves lunch so early i eat a sanwich wit no cheese or mayo around 3 o'clock.
Try to mix this up, too. Maybe low fat or nonfat yogurt and fruit could work. If it's right after working out, make it more protein-based. Maybe a turkey burger or grilled chicken breast.
and for dinner salad.
I don't think you're eating enough calories. Seriously. You also seem to be more tipped toward carbs. They are good for energy but I believe you need more protein. Turkey or skinless chicken are good choices. So is fish or shellfish. Tofu is good, too. Ham and pork can be okay but watch the salt. There's nothing wrong with beef but watch the portions.
in other words no matter how hard i work i cant loose enough wait. although ive lost about ten lbs in 3 months i cant seem to look like every other girl in my school who eats all the junk food they want and still weigh 90lbs. HELP!
Well, losing 10 lbs. in 3 month is not bad. It's a good accomplishment!
And, well, you're not going to look like other girls. And they won't look like you. Some of this has to do with height and genetics, but it's also because of puberty. Some girls go through it earlier than others, so their proportions are different. By age 16 or so, everyone more or less has gone through puberty or has at least started it, but I know, that's a long time from now.
In the meantime - sports are good! You're doing a great job! And you're aware, which is fantastic.
And I'd suggest, trying to do some strength training and also eating more protein. Talk to your doctor, and your gym teacher, as they will have suggestions, too.
And be strong. 13 is a difficult year for everyone, even for the girls who you believe are completely together. Here's a secret: they're not