@Finn dAbuzz,
Soz said:
Quote:it's about how very difficult it is to deal with these kids in any setting and how difficult it is to find capable, qualified people willing to do it (and the bless people who do and who do it well, because the difficulty doesn't mean it shouldn't happen -- we can't just abandon these kids).
That's exactly what the issue is. And I don't think that people who have never done it or observed people who are trying to do it, have any idea of what challenges are inherent in dealing with 'students' with these sorts of issues every minute of every day. Because you're not only trying to manage unmanageable and self-abusing behavior - you're also supposed to be trying to educate. And there isn't just one student in the room - you may have five (in a self-contained classroom) and thirty if the child has been mainstreamed.
I don't think the time-out rooms in and of themselves are bad ideas. In fact, I've worked in settings in which I thought they were absolutely necessary, for the students' mental health and well-being as well as for the teachers'. Sometimes we all need a break from all the stimulus around us, and if you're autistic and that stimulus is torture - a break from that can be as necessary as food and water.
But I've never heard or seen any student being left alone in a classroom for three hours. Apart from being abuse - that's just stupid and asking for trouble. Even with typically learning kids - I wouldn't leave a kid alone in a classroom for five minutes. You, as the teacher, are responsible for that student and that classroom. If anything were to happen to anyone or anything- even if you stepped out to use the bathroom - you'd have to answer.
But we know that there are abuses of vulnerable populations, and we should be smart enough to figure out that this is more likely to happen when people feel that they've been thrust into a role they are not trained to handle and resent having been placed in.
It's not a perfect world, but some of the decisions made in public education, make it more imperfect for the students and teachers alike.
I think the people who do this job well and for their entire career are heroes.
However, they're never the ones who get any attention at all, much less accolades.
I did it for three years, and it broke my heart. I couldn't continue to watch these kids suffer the way they do every single day (just living- I never saw anyone abuse anyone in a public school-I was lucky enough to work with really good people).
But I also couldn't continue to go home with bite and scratch marks all over my hands and on any part of my arms that weren't covered (that got infected because the kid then touched my hands with his which had faeces on them). It was physically and emotionally exhausting. The adrenalin never stops - unless the child falls asleep, you're constantly on the defense. It made me realize what people who are living with an abuser must feel like.
And I realized then that the people who do this job well, and even moreso, the people who parent children with these issues appropriately, are nothing less than heroic.
Because every day, I left at 4:00, exhausted, happy to have made it through another day and thanking my lucky stars that I was going home to my 'normal' children.
But you know - they don't pay these teachers any more than they pay anyone else. They stick these kids (and the teachers) in an out of the way classroom, down in the basement somewhere and then expect them to work miracles without bothering any of the 'real' teachers or students- and they call that mainstreaming. Or they stick one or two of these kids in a regular class and call that 'the least restrictive and appropriate environment'.
How can what is appropriate for an eight year old who can read, write, multiply and divide also be appropriate for an eight year old who can't read, write, multiply or divide? And how is one (or two if you're lucky) human being supposed to make that classroom equally appropriate for both of those children and twenty-eight others with varying degrees of normality?
Finn said:
Quote:It's all right because it can never be always wrong.
There has to be another and better answer.
If it seems all wrong, you don't stop working until you find a way to make it right.