If by keyhole you mean laproscopic surgery, I had my gallbladder removed in that fashion. I was in the hospital for 2 days and it took about a week before I was able to eliminate the pain pills.
You are probably doing more damage than good to your body by lifting your baby and that is why you are continuing to be in pain. If you've ever had a strained muscle in your body, you know it hurts when you try to use it strenuously. Surgery is similar to that. You are using muscles and body tissues that have been recently traumatized. They need time to heal.
Rather than showing your husband a bunch of comments on a message board, show him the advice on some medical sites.
Bottom line, if it goes past 7 days and you are still in extreme pain, you should call your doctor to be sure there are no unknown complications.
http://hcd2.bupa.co.uk/fact_sheets/html/gallbladder_removal.html
You will usually be able to go home once you have made a full recovery from the anaesthesia. However, you will need to arrange for someone to drive you home and then stay with you for the first 24 hours.
If you need them, continue taking painkillers as advised by the hospital. General anaesthesia can temporarily affect your co-ordination and reasoning skills, so you should not drink alcohol, operate machinery or sign legal documents for 48 hours afterwards.
Normal activities, including returning to work, can usually be resumed after about a week. You must follow your surgeon's advice about driving. You shouldn't drive until you feel you could do an emergency stop without discomfort. If you are in any doubt about driving, please contact your motor insurer so that you are aware of their recommendations, and always follow your surgeon's advice.
Dissolvable stitches will disappear in about seven to 10 days. Any scarring should fade with time.
About two out of 10 people (20 percent) will have diarrhoea after having their gallbladder removed. Eating plenty of high fibre foods such as brown rice, wholemeal bread and pasta can help absorb excess water and make your bowel movement more bulky.
Laparoscopic cholecystectomy is commonly performed and generally safe. For most people the benefits, in terms of improved symptoms, are much greater than the disadvantages. However, all surgery carries an element of risk. In order to make an informed decision and give your consent, you need to be aware of the possible side-effects and the risk of complications.
Side-effects
These are the unwanted but mostly temporary effects of a successful treatment. An example of a side-effect is feeling sick as a result of the anaesthetic or painkillers.
You are likely to feel some pain in the abdomen as well as "referred pain" in the tips of your shoulders - caused by the gas used to inflate the abdomen. This usually disappears within 48 hours or so.
Complications
This is when problems occur during or after the operation. Most people are not affected but the main possible complications of any surgery are an unexpected reaction to the anaesthetic, excessive bleeding, infection or developing a blood clot in a vein in the leg (deep vein thrombosis, DVT). To help prevent this, most people are given compression stockings to wear during the operation. Complications may require further treatment such as returning to theatre to stop bleeding, or antibiotics to deal with an infection.
Other complications specific to keyhole gallbladder surgery are uncommon but can include accidental damage to other organs in the abdomen (such as the bile duct, bowel, bladder, liver or major blood vessels) requiring further surgery to repair the damage. In extremely rare cases, these complications can be fatal.
Your surgeon will be experienced at performing laparoscopies, but even so a few are not successfully completed and the abdomen may need to be opened. This is known as conversion to open cholecystectomy.
You may have ongoing abdominal symptoms, such as pain, bloating, wind and diarrhoea. These may require further investigation and treatment.