@hawkeye10,
hawkeye10 wrote:marriage has always been a heterosexual only contract, it does belong to the heterosexual majority until and unless they decide to allow the courts to expand it.
Don't know what to tell you here Hawkeye. This just isn't true. Marriage has NOT always been a heterosexual only contract. In fact early homosexual marriages predate Christianity if you wanna hash things out.
As for your theory about the majority owning the rights. Whatever, this is our impasse. I believe that rights are claimed as per examples like brown v board of education and that we live in a representative republic. You believe otherwise, and have yet to site your source. I guess this is a because-I-said-so kind of thing. I'm not going to hold my breathe to get any sort of real supported argument out of you.
hawkeye10 wrote:What you don't seem to understand that marriage is not only a state sanctified contract, it is an Identity.
The hell I don't. I tried to point out that this goes beyond a simple legal matter several times now. As for identity, I'd like to note that in your lectures on what marriage is, you seem afraid to mention the 800 lb gorilla in the room: Love.
hawkeye10 wrote:even now, after two generations of the institution of marriage being neglected and depowered, being married is part of the definition of some (many?) people.
So while straight people have basically spoiled marriage and under appreciate its value, gays seem to understand it pretty well. I'd say by our argument that they might deserve it more in that case. But I'd never deny you the right to get married so this is neither here nor there.
hawkeye10 wrote:You want to change the definition of marriage and keep claiming that it should not matter to those who are married or who might be married under the current rules.
I may not agree with any number of marriages or two straight people, doesn't mean I have the authority to challenge their right to get married.
hawkeye10 wrote:That blows me away...you have no idea of what marriage traditionally has meant to people and sometimes still does. You act as if the whimsical mean nothing marriage practiced by some is marriage as everyone experiences it.
I most certainly do not. And if what marriage means to someone is that they feel more entitled to it than somebody else, I don't have sympathy for them. You seem to have strong ideas about what marriage means to you, that's great. If by letting gays marry it means anything different/less it's not marriage that is weak, it's your mind.
hawkeye10 wrote:As a guy who has been married 23 years, and who has at times had to work hard to stay married, I am offended by your ignorance.
Maybe you wouldn't have to work so hard if you'd introduce the notion of love as the nature of the bond. Of course I could be wrong, when you describe what your marriage means to your wife, I bet you use the word love plenty. But not here. Here if you were to admit that true love or commitment is the passport to the "identity" or "status" that is marriage, you'd have a big problem defending your stance.
hawkeye10 wrote:Marriage has a legacy, which is a church ceremony, a sacrament, a contract with God.
I'm not here to argue about what our favorite flavors of ice cream are. For you and some others, it's a church ceremony, but don't make the idiotic assumption that everyone associates marriage with the same things as you do.
After all, two atheists can be married right? You here to tell me they shouldn't be able to marry?
hawkeye10 wrote:Marriage is now sanctified by the state only, is a much less significant contract, and is now one that is easy to make null and void.
What's your point? That the state shouldn't be the involved in marriage? That when it became a government contract, it meant less?
I won't disagree. Let's remove the notion of government control altogether. But wait... if people were free to get married outside of the authority of the state... how would you keep banning gays from marrying?
You've got a problem boss.
hawkeye10 wrote:However, for many of us being married is an act of tapping into the rich tradition of marriage, we take it more seriously then the modern easy come easy go legal hooking up.
It's legal to hook up without a marriage. Dumb argument. Yes, yes, yes. You take marriage serious. So serious you make no mention of love. That's a mighty rich tradition you come from.
hawkeye10 wrote:By allowing sinners to be married it will not be any longer possible to look at marriage as being part and parcel of the traditional church marriage.
You're a sinner. Your sins are no less than the homosexual. Being gay isn't exceptional in any way. Not that any of this matters. Sin is irrelevant in this conversation, unless you want to ban atheists (or any other non-christian) from getting married.
hawkeye10 wrote:Allowing gays to claim to be married will change what marriage is to all.
How? Would you be less married? No. Less rights? No. Less in love. No (although I wonder if that's an issue). It's not like your insurance policy. It's not like your going to get a letter in the mail notifying you your monthly payment just went up.
hawkeye10 wrote:That expanding marriage will cheapen it is a very rational and easy to understand point. That some of us might care enough about marriage to not be willing to cheapen it is less rational.
Unless you plan to quantify (that would be entertaining) the value of marriage with and without homosexuals marrying, and show how that value would be any less, you don't have a rational argument.
If you'd love your wife any less because two gay guys you don't know get married, you're a loser, and your wife would deserve better.
hawkeye10 wrote:But as I have already explained what I want does not need to be rational, it only needs to be the opinion that is the majority opinion for me to get what i want.
So says the cricket on your should I suppose. Like I said, this is our impasse. I'll just stay crazy here and side with rational thought.
hawkeye10 wrote:Might may not make right, but might makes the rules.
I understand better now. Rules don't have to be right, they just have to be your rules.
Case closed on you sir. Verdict: You're an unapologetic hypocrite.
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Obviously, you don't care though.