@mysteryman,
As to custody,
it seems to me, that women are
NATURALLY better suited
to take care of their own children, tho this is not always the case.
By co-incidence, during the last 2 weeks, I 've had 2 guys and one woman
tell me of very severe abuse from their mothers; one called it torture.
These r exceptions.
I believe that a mother shoud raise her child,
in the absence of bad indications to the contrary
( e.g., complaints from the juvenile victim,
if such there be ).