Damn, Endy I wish you worked with me
I feel exactly the same - we're a bunch of lame ass adults who have messed the world up for so many of these kids (except we always make sure our own children get the absolute best, of course) and then we say - "Here, now get off your ass, stop whining and deal with it."
Well, I don't know how to tell a girl who was raped at the age of five to shut up and deal with it while she bisects her angles...
I'm so happy I get to work with these young people everyday instead of with your average adult in an office. They are so real...there is absolutely no pretense or asides or insidious, creeping bullshit...they just let it rip.
The other day when I gave the assignment this girl threw the paper back at me and said, "**** this ****- I aint doin' this, bitch." Well, six months ago I would have been in shock. But by this time- I knew - here's a test for me...so I said, "Hmmm, that wasn't the response I was hoping for."
She said, "Yeah, and what RESPONSE did your white ass think you was gonna get."
I said, "I don't know- something more like, thanks for the opportunity you're giving me to learn today Miss."
She just looked at me- and we both laughed. Later she asked, "Why you didn't get mad at me, Miss?"
I said, "You know - at least you had the courage to say it to my face. Most people don't have that kind of courage- even most adults. Some days I feel like saying the same exact thing...only I wouldn't call you a bitch- I'd get fired. Just make sure you don't make it a habit - we need to work on more productive ways to express our true feelings, okay?"
She's done every assignment since.