I trully appreciate it Gala, but I've never applied for a job requiring me to pee in a cup (never happen) and now I will no longer take a job which requires me to give personal information.
These are things that I feel strongly enough about that I can't/won't go against what I believe in, or in this case, what I don't believe in.
I will take my old job back at the lobster shop if need be and I will deal with being sick as a dog from working there, before I stoop to working for any company who will not hire me without talking to my friends first.
It's not right and I can't pretend it is. I have absolutely no criminal record (not even a speeding ticket), I have several professional references they can call to vouch for my work history, but my personal life is off limits.
If it means that much to them, I don't want to work there.
I wonder how the companies would like it if we asked them for personal references! After all, why should I trust them? It works both ways and I know that they need me much more than I need them.
The last company I worked for screwed me, so maybe I'll start asking companies for references, so I can call their friends