Bella Dea wrote:Lash wrote:I don't think helping loved ones avoid sadness is a good reason to suffer through misery for decades, though.
At some point, the person who feels suicide is the best solution should be considered above those who surround them in life.
Our lives belong to us, ultimately.
Loved ones should understand.
Even if mentally they are not able to make that decision?
I think suicide is a selfish thing to do.
I have never been in the position where death seemed better than life and really meant it so perhaps I don't know but I have been on the other end of a suicide. There were plenty of people around him who would have helped in any way possible to bring him out of the misery he so obviously felt. He was 14. What at 14 could possibly be so bad death was the only answer?
No, I disagree with you that loved ones should understand. All I understood when he died is that we all failed to help him.
I understand how you feel, Bella. Montana sort of finished my thought---and I'd like to clarify. When a person is young-- like 14--many times therapy or meds can improve their lives. It is sad that people don't always show signs of deep depression. Sometimes, intervention can help. i was talking about rational adults, who have spent a good deal of their lives attempting to live with either some debilitating illness or deep depression that isn't abated by meds or therapy.
In these cases, I think it is cruel of "loved ones" to consider them selfish when they choose the last resort.
As Bella said, she hasn't experienced the kind of reality that would lead someone to consider suicide as a valid option. That being, I think people who make that choice should be given the benefit of the doubt.
But, Bella, I am so sorry about your loss.
