the look of concern Jewish mothers have every time a son or daughter says they met someone new.
How can you differentiate between a "look of concern" and a "look of interest"?
Strangely, I don't seem to be receiving email alerts of new responses on this thread?? I saw this continuing thread by pure chance.
Secondly, the thought I made, that the above quote is taken from, I actually made no sense. Possibly it sounded nice. But there is no logical connection I made between any 50% rate (approximately?) of inter-marriage and a Jewish mother's feelings.
But, to answer just the one quoted sentence above, I was referring to the East Coast, probably New York Metro area, ethnic
Jewish mother that would usually
(historically) want her child to marry within the faith.
Naturally, in this big country there are plenty of Jews, who say they are Jewish, but care less who is dating, or marrying her child. It really is an individual thing. But for purposes of sociological type statements, I was thinking the reaction would usually
be "concern" (from a NY area ethnic Jewish mother).
Digressing slightly, I believe
(again in the NY area) a child can come from an inter-faith marriage and both parents would then more likely have less feelings as to who that child marries.
However, when a child comes from two Jewish parents (all four grandparents were Jewish), then I believe the child will be aware that his/her parents would usually
like to see that child marry another Jew. Not for the sake of the religion, necessarily, I believe. Nor, based on any negative feelings towards any other religion, necessarily, I believe, but, I believe, based on that whole Jewish survival thing. I truly believe, the Holocaust had a collective effect on many Jews, so Jewish survival reverberates in many Jewish heads, like a night watchman.
I believe marrying a non-Jew, for a Jew in Israel, is not allowed by law. They can marry in another country and live in Israel, but they can't have a Jewish ceremony in Israel, I believe. That, I believe, reflects the concern with Jewish survival.
I personally believe, after WWII and the Holocaust, other religions should have attempted to dissuade their congregants from marrying Jews. Sort of like putting a ban on fishing in a lake where the fish have diminished. At least until the fish have gone back to their original numbers.
I say this based on comments I've heard from Jews occasionally that what Hitler couldn't do with bullets and gas, will be done through inter-marriage (end the existence of Jews as a people living in many countries).
I don't think marrying a Jew reflects a plot to eliminate Jews. I just think a non-Jew can be attracted to someone who is Jewish, and Jewish survival would not be on his/her mind. No malicious intent on the part of the non-Jew, he/she would be just trying to find someone nice to marry.
I think the whole question of Jewish assimilation is fascinating, since Jews always had the option to assimilate, and for a few thousand years most chose not to. Actually, over the centuries, cumulatively many did. Let's not talk about that, since some people don't want to think they can have a Jewish ancestor somewhere in his/her family tree.