Thank you all for your advice.
From where I sit it is really hard to imagine any good from him knowing these stories.
(Like his grandparents year long absence because they were using meth.
They're good people now, and important to Mo.)
It really isn't heartwarming at all, dry, just the facts sort of stuff.
I wish to offer u my professional and personal assurance
that dry, tedious printed factual information really comes alive
when it is read by someone who needs or desires that information
or who is interested in it for historical purposes, like an adult Mo himself.
Indeed, if adult Mo found out that these diaries existed
and were intentionally destroyed, he might very well feel
intense angst, remorse and emotional loss for many years.
I understand your concerns about their content,
but this is Mo 's personal history: most respectfully,
that information belongs to Mo.
In his adulthood, u can freely tell him what is in there,
him in advance for any shocks.
Boomer, please don 't rob Mo of the opportunity
to make his own decision
If it came to pass that either u or your husband
lived longer than the other while Mo is still a child,
it might be possible
[ I don't know what Mo's present
legal status is with u, nor do I know the laws of your State]
that mistaken-minded people might institute legal custody
proceedings concerning which that meticulously kept information
possibly woud be valuable.
U shoud continue to keep the diaries up to date.
I am sure that Mo 'd love to read back about how u prepared
his 9th Birthday Party and how his friend said it was
the best day of his life n how Mo cried because it was over.
Don 't stop.
That is historical gold
and u wrote it charmingly
U have honored Mo by bestowing so much love on him.
If u do not destroy them, then u remain in control
of that information, to use it at your discretion.
After the diaries have been destroyed, u lose control
u can only WISH
that u still had them if u need them in the future,
for any unanticipated reason. Life is full of surprizes.
There is very little editorializing and most of it is ugly
(my dismay of his mom buying a fancy car and getting it
all "pimped" out shortly after he came to stay with us while
insisting she didn't have the money to raise her child;
my fury over his dad having spent too much time with him over
the course of a year - 36 hours in a year - less hours than most
people work in a week - for us to gain psychological parent status
(at that time Mo had already spent more than half his life with us)).
None of it will ever answer "why".
Still, I suppose there isn't any real reason to destroy them.
At least yet there isn't.
U might choose to write a preface, a prefatory letter, (or DVD or videotape)
to Mo for him to read BEFORE
he reads the content of those diaries
telling him whatever u believe that he shoud know about them
to prepare him emotionally. If u wanna, on DVD or videotape,
u can offer him commentary on whatever u wrote in the diaries,
explaining whatever u think shud be more fully explained,
to relieve and mitigate the dryness of the factual information;
even read to him (on the tape)
some of the entries that u made, to bring them more to life and understanding.
I bet that Mo in his adulthood will not consider them to be dry.
Thay are and thay will be a DARK TREASURE
I estimate a 90% chance that Mo will keep them all his life.
Its not ofen, Boomer, that we have 100% unanimous agreement
on an A2K thread.