I would like to expand a bit on a topic we addressed above - the non-believer who wants to believe. I'll share a "dirty little secret" with y'all. Our churches (with a few insignificant exceptions) are not filled with wild-eyed fanatics bawling, shouting and rolling in the aisles in a fit of religious ecstasy.
With the exception of a few small, independent "prophesy" churches, hidden back in the woods somewhere, I think it's safe to say the typical baptist church in the south is certainly not a hotbed of religious fervor.
People go to church for lots of reasons, the very least of which, I would venture to say, is the fear of Hell. Some go because it's good for their business, they want run for public office or in reponse to personal social/family pressures; others simply to participate in the fellowship activities or because they were raised to believe it's the "right thing" to do, or just out of plain old habit --- all sorts of reasons that have little or nothing to do with faith. Everybody knows that and nobody has a problem with it. If those of little faith were suddenly removed from my church, or any church, I would guess there would be a lot of empty pews!
I know several local men of my generation who have gone to church every sunday all their lives, and have raised their families in church, but have never been saved or baptized - because they don't really believe much beyond the existence of God (IF they even believe that) and they don't want to be hypocrites. But they pay their way and do lots of good works for the church - coach athletic teams, spent weeks at summer camp with the kids, work on the building and grounds, sing in the choir, cook huge barbecues for hundreds of people etc. That won't get then to Heaven, but they don't lose a whole lot of sleep over that! Do I fit into that category? If I did, I wouldn't tell anybody - least of all you!
With that much constant exposure, it sort of "grows on ya", of course, and such folks are certainly not "enemies" of christianity - just luke warm christians for whom church is more a way of life than anything else. It only becomes hypocrisy if they walk down the aisle and profess a faith they don't have - and even then who knows and who cares? Actually, most of us were formally saved as little children - and sometimes the faith of childhood moderates considerably with age. Quite often, a pillar of the church will turn-down a deacon post because he doesn't feel he has enough faith to qualify for such an honor - and is open about it. No big deal - an everyday fact of life.
Quite often, actually, our young people come home from their sophomore year at Texas A&M professing flat-out atheism that would make Joe Nation and Setanta proud. But, thankfully, when they get married and have kids of their own they usually come back home to their church family. Have they had a rebirth of faith - who knows? I don't know and I don't ask. They want their kids to grow-up in church because that's the culture they come-from and that's the place children should grow-up. It's just that simple.
People of the same socio-economic level who share similar views of the world naturally gather together in groups - whether it's a street gang in South Central Los Angeles or a baptist church in East Texas. People have a need to belong, to be part of a group who accepts them, cares about them, helps them when their down on their luck, cries with them in times of sorrow and rejoices with them in times of joy. That's what church is about as much as anything else. Is that really so awful?
Having said all that, I would like to explore with y'all , in a new thread that I am now preparing, the role that churches play as social institutions -things like the effect of peer pressure and the fear of public disgrace in controlling human behavior. We went to the casino over in Louisiana a while back and my wife, while playing the one-armed bandit, kept acting nervous and looking around. I asked what's wrong - "I'm afraid one of the ladies from church will see me here," she muttered. Then I reminded her that "SHE would be here too, and couldn't very well tattle, now could she?"
Jack