martybarker wrote:I'd like to add some perspective from a newbies point. When I first posted here I just dove right in with my question at hand. It was something that was sitting very heavy with me and I didn't know who to talk to about it. My plan was to get some advice and see if there were others in my position and then move on. I didn't try to get a feel for other members first. Then as I read responses to my issue, which I truely respected and yes there were some wiseass remarks, I began to like the conversations. I definitely feel that a lot of my initial responses to other threads were ignored and I thought about leaving.
Now I've been here for awhile and plan on hanging around. I just hope that my input is half as valued as the input I received.
It's really too bad that something happened to cause distress amongst members, but it seems that this thread has turned into reminising amongst long timers. I think I had something valid to add here but as I said above and someone else mentioned sometimes the newer members seem to get overlooked in some conversations.
And yes, I know this is not about me and I'm not trying to steer there, just adding my perspective as a newer member
<puff> <who has the hemostats, burning fingers!!>
This all makes me think of Chocolat.
You have chocolate soup, lots of chocolate candy--because I'm suddenly unbearably hungry.... and Johnny Depp.
Harmony, confluence.
I like saying that word slowly.... confluence, flueeyeeey
Chocolate.
I bet osso would be to DIE for stoned.
Packs car.
Marty, I appreciated what you said, just didn't post back.
Lash, it's been years... either that I was to-die-for, or, stoned..
I love to hear you free associate stone cold sober. I can't imagine the wonder of your thoughts, smoked.
And, you are to die for.
Oh, and there's a lot of news about chocolate and cocoa lately, including that unsweetened, non-alkali processed is best. Back with a link later, gotta go on an errand.
Martybarker, I have noticed that although newbies may experience a degree of temporary exclusion, that is to say a feeling of being outsiders, because they have not yet developed the connections which take time, it is VERY easy to become an insider within some subgroup of A2K. All one has to do is be civil. I like the saying: "The ethically depraved become the socially deprived." But the Golden Law of Reciprocity virtually guarantees that gifts given generate gifts received.
She's either going to buy pot or chocolate.
JLNobody wrote:Martybarker, I have noticed that although newbies may experience a degree of temporary exclusion, that is to say a feeling of being outsiders, because they have not yet developed the connections which take time, it is VERY easy to become an insider within some subgroup of A2K. All one has to do is be civil. I like the saying: "The ethically depraved become the socially deprived." But the Golden Law of Reciprocity virtually guarantees that gifts given generate gifts received.
Point taken, I'll leave you all to your conversation at hand.
martybarker wrote:martybarker wrote:I'd like to add some perspective from a newbies point. When I first posted here I just dove right in with my question at hand. It was something that was sitting very heavy with me and I didn't know who to talk to about it. My plan was to get some advice and see if there were others in my position and then move on. I didn't try to get a feel for other members first. Then as I read responses to my issue, which I truely respected and yes there were some wiseass remarks, I began to like the conversations. I definitely feel that a lot of my initial responses to other threads were ignored and I thought about leaving.
Now I've been here for awhile and plan on hanging around. I just hope that my input is half as valued as the input I received.
It's really too bad that something happened to cause distress amongst members, but it seems that this thread has turned into reminising amongst long timers. I think I had something valid to add here but as I said above and someone else mentioned sometimes the newer members seem to get overlooked in some conversations.
And yes, I know this is not about me and I'm not trying to steer there, just adding my perspective as a newer member
I'm 100% with you, Marty. Us newbies have to stick together. Fight the power!
Yeah, Marty, I hear you too! Let's kick ass those old timers who ignore us newbies.
OK Kicky, come see me on the got dressed to go to the gym thread.
kickycan wrote:martybarker wrote:martybarker wrote:I'd like to add some perspective from a newbies point. When I first posted here I just dove right in with my question at hand. It was something that was sitting very heavy with me and I didn't know who to talk to about it. My plan was to get some advice and see if there were others in my position and then move on. I didn't try to get a feel for other members first. Then as I read responses to my issue, which I truely respected and yes there were some wiseass remarks, I began to like the conversations. I definitely feel that a lot of my initial responses to other threads were ignored and I thought about leaving.
Now I've been here for awhile and plan on hanging around. I just hope that my input is half as valued as the input I received.
It's really too bad that something happened to cause distress amongst members, but it seems that this thread has turned into reminising amongst long timers. I think I had something valid to add here but as I said above and someone else mentioned sometimes the newer members seem to get overlooked in some conversations.
And yes, I know this is not about me and I'm not trying to steer there, just adding my perspective as a newer member
I'm 100% with you, Marty. Us newbies have to stick together. Fight the power!
Marty succeeds in making it about her.
It took three posts, though. I'm going to have to give her a 7.6 on that attempt.
I'll be right over after I get done gulping down this supersize double quarter-pounder with cheese value meal.
Marty, I don't remember you ever not being civil (in contrast to myself, who goes there once in a while, in fact rather recently.) Stick around...
On sticking around, that errand will happen tomorrow instead of this afternoon. It involves a certain squirrel..
On piling on, I see it happen and can see the effect; but on the other hand, we're all individuals who individually wish to express our opinions and sometimes those coincide. Should only one person have an opinion toward any given point of view? Given our variations, someone always comes along and breaks the pile-up.
caribou wrote:I think it is hard to be a new person here.
But it's hard to be the newbie in most situations.
Like anywhere else, there are groups of people that have known each other for a long time. They understand each others quirks, tempers and jokes.
A newbie comes along, it takes awhile to get a "fix" on them.
Some members are going to be happy with the friends they already know and not pay a newbie alot of attention.
It might seem like a "circling the wagons" mentality.
Some members may be having so much fun, they don't realize how their comments will sound to a newbie.
And Some members, of course, are welcoming to anyone.
It's Life.
I understand first impressions.
I know this thread isn't about me, me, me. But this is how I'm feeling about life on A2K right now. I don't have much to say the last couple of days. I'm second guessing myself. I'm wondering how what I post will be taken. I hate that I feel this way. And I seem to have an albatross around my neck that I'm afraid will follow me into other threads and derail conversations. I feel guilty by association.
Yes, I'm thinking too much. I know.
Sorry, I was just adding my opinions to Carabou's comment. Carry on.
Okay, kicky, how much did you pay for the "value meal?"
That reminds me of my very tight Chicago millionare friend who invited me to a "really good Chicago beef differ. He took me to Arby's, and used coupons. It WAS satisfying, however.
