Quote:I have to say that I was surprised to learn that aidan is a teacher. She seems so idealistic
I've made a conscious choice to hang on to my idealism. Seriously, it's the only way I've been able to continue in a profession I love with any amount of professional satisfaction for twenty years.
And I have to say that I see just as much disdain and lack of effort displayed by administrators (and some burnt out teachers) who are looking at the bottom line instead of the needs of every student, as I do displayed by the kids who are not willing to put effort into their studies.
So I wouldn't know where to accurately place the blame. But I don't see that as productive. I think Chai and candid1 are right - other people will do what they see fit to do - I can't really control that. I can only control what I do.
Quote:and to have faith in the current jargon
It has nothing to do with jargon. It has everything to do with the fact that I was once a sixteen year old girl. I try to remember what it was like, and give other sixteen year olds the benefit of the doubt. I'm glad I had teachers who were willing to do it for me - so I just try to return the favor.
Quote: While I like to get along with the students and while I get over my anger quickly, I do not believe this lack of self esteem excuse that is so popular in the mass media.
Maybe you were lucky enough not to have experienced how crippling a lack of self-esteem can be. I was always a good student because I like learning - so I didn't suffer from lack of self-esteem there. But I was a very shy child and adolescent - due to lack of self-esteem. I felt frozen and crippled by it in social situations in which I was not surrounded by people who I knew understood and accepted me.
If you've never experienced it - I can't describe it. But if this girl is sixteen and can't read - you can believe she is suffering in some way.
And that in turn will have some sort of effect on her behavior.
POM - why does someone primp? They constantly primp and look in mirrors because they are insecure about their looks- or if that's not true and she
is secure in how she looks - maybe that's all she feels she has going for her and has to constantly reassure herself about what she might feel is her only asset.
In terms of the sleeping - is she depressed?
Why did you feel it necessary to mention that she's Peruvian? I have ideas about how or why this might impact her situation, but I'm curious to know how or why you do, or
if you think it does.
Finally - candidone is right - it's inexcusable that she's been passed through school without learning to read. Her parents didn't do that - she didn't do that - the school has to take some responsibility.
(I won't say teachers because I know that is most often an administrative decision, despite what the teacher's input might be).