Re: Child support and its not your child
researching wrote:
I'm doing some legal research on child support and maintenance - specifically when one parent (father) finds out that the child he is supporting after the divorce is actually not his child - he is not the biological father. Belief that he was the father was a major factor in proeprty settlment where his wife received most of his property and was entitled to child support and other money. The father now wants to ask for reimbursement.
It takes far more than a biological connection with a child to make a man a father.
A real father, a man worthy of carrying the title of "father," is the man who forms an enduring, caring, and supportive parental relationship with the child AFTER the child is born.
And that is why Australia royally screwed up to the detriment of children when it changed its laws to value the biological composition of children more than the relationships that children form with their real (regardless of biology) fathers.
What kind of "father" would abandon, emotionally scar, and financially devastate the child with whom he has formed a parent/child relationship in order to punish the mother after the marital relationship has soured? The man should get counseling to deal with the marital break-up; but he should refrain from crapping all over his child.