turning off private messages

Well, there's no rule that says you have to respond to your PMs. Or even read them, for that matter. Why would you want to turn this service off completely?

maybe the messages bother me, so I would rather not get them?

If it's a matter of offending the senders by not replying, I wouldn't worry. Most who know anastasia have been around long enough to understand the pm situation.

I'm pretty sure you can delete without opening. Like, see that there is one, then go right and delete it without seeing anything more than the title.

Yeah, just checked. There's a "mark" box at the end. Check that, and then scroll to the bottom and click on "delete marked".

nah, I mean, I can respond publickly.

maybe I'm just being a pain in the ass.

but I find it STRANGE that you can't turn it off. see note about clearing my head in my profile.

can someone turn it off for me?

the posts are not UPSETTING, they are from people I know that I can't respond to. THAT is upsetting.

does that makesense at all, soz?

I never really USE pm's, so there's no reason for me, personally, to have them.

or maybe I'm just making conversation? that's also always possible. <s>

oh, stupid me - having a conversation with myself AT THIS MOMENT! heheh.

going to bed.

But thus you enlarged the number of your post ...

Yeah, I see.

I don't think you can turn off the incoming ones.

Maybe ask for the email address of the people you want to respond to?

The system ain't perfect, and it's probably worst for people like you who are caught in the middle -- last time you were here, anyone could PM, and now you're back and used to some things, but they've changed.

Here's the announcement about the whole thing btw:

http://www.able2know.com/forums/viewtopic.php?t=47497

it's ok, I've just put my email.

saw that post a while ago, but it's good to have it in this thread. <nods>

thanks for the answer.

I am REALLY going! <g>

nighty-night! :-)

so I thought I'd post the analysis:

I got two messages from members I know from abuzz. not being able to respond to them made me feel like a five-year-old. because of issues some of you are aware of, it would also be normal for me to take it personally - not because it's meant like that, but because I am insecure and defensive. <s> ("the world is not ALWAYS about ME - the world is not ALWAYS about ME!" <g>) I realize that's emotional/non-rational, but that's where I was. <s> Since I REALIZE that's lame, I talked myself out of THAT upset, but there was still the fact that I couldn't respond to those people, and can't ask them for their email in public because of he private manner of private messages - I was a bit stuck.

that turned on my black/white reaction ("She can't handle it - take it away!") and so I wanted it off.

hm ... now I know what it means to be tipper gore. <g>

btw, walter - I don't give diddly about number of posts. <giggles> I am embarassed when I post like that - but it has to do with me not being able to say things directly. Usually, for example, emotional emails also come in two parts.

good to see you!

soz, what's DTOM?

uh ... see what I mean? <g>

I was serious about that need for connection thing.

but can I ask - is it like ...

turning off private messages would be like turning off error messages?

this is STILL a SERIOUS question in the help category. I would like to have an explanation. <s> that's why I posted it here, no matter how distracted I get.

that's me handling my emotions responsibly.

I learned that in bartendng school.

DTOM is short for Don't Tread on Me, who is a member here.