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Tue 23 Dec, 2025 02:13 pm
I'm age 31. Any advise is welcomed. Please comment.
I am confident in making friends, but I'm NOT confident in keeping them. I've never had long term friendships with others. The closest thing to having a buddy was with somebody I hung out with for two summers back to back in high school. Most of my friendships only last about 2-4 months. I've never had a close friend who would stand up for me when times were tough. I haven't had a strong-friendship in 13 years. I understand a friendship is 50% me and 50% them. Am I a bad friend or am I bad at picking friends?
I know it can't be both because if it was both, I wouldn't be able to keep my shot-term friendships. If it were both, there would be zero friendships. I've had about 30 in the past decade. So it must be one or the other in my mind.
What is the secret to keeping a friendship for a longer time?
@YourFriend7666,
I think these kinds of questions are best dealt with in face-to-face conversations. Counselors and therapists are trained to listen and respond to questions like yours and they can engage with you in real life, back and forth discussion. I think you'd find that much more effective than seeking guidance from online strangers.
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