@PISA,
PISA wrote:
Hi i am a male in my 30 i cook quite good, clean, fix around the house when required and i was told i am good in bed.I love a girl to bits and she loves me aswel or atleast that is what she tells me.But at the moment we are constantly fighting because she says i am gelous and possessiv and yes i do admit i am somehow but that is only because she keeps everything she does to her self.I love her and i don't want to give any suggestions what i should do.We don't live together.
Well she sort of told you what is bothering her and seems to be the source of your conflict - do you agree that this is the source of the two of you fighting?
If so, do you want to stay with her? If you do - you know the behavior you need to change. Perhaps make a bit of compromise - tell her what causes your jealousy and possessiveness? Is there some behavior she could change that will lessen this? Maybe she could open up a bit more; share a bit more - BUT if she does then you need to back off on the possessiveness - give her space and independence. Also there is no need for jealousy - if she didn't want to be with you should would not be with you.
Basically you two need to sit down and talk about what you both feel you need - non-judgemental on both sides. Then come to a compromise in the middle - do with this kindness, compassion and love or else it could blow up into another fight.
But you will need to compromise and give a little as well as she will.