Wed 10 Aug, 2005 08:52 am
How do you know it's the right time?
If seems difficult to know or make this decision.
Banjo our Sheltie has cancer and the Vet gave us 3 to 6 months.
He's stopped eating since yesterday and continues to throw up in 12 hours 4x - the last was bright yellow chunky. He gets around but not like he used to. He is winding down, not crying or showing any sign of pain.
The wife and daughter are in Mexico until next week so part of me wants him to last that long and the other part says the sooner the better.......
Husker, what makes your decision difficult is your wife and daughter being away. Can you call them and ask if they want you to wait until their return or to end your dog's suffering right away.
My son and his wife recently went through this agony. One of their beloved dogs was very fatally ill. My son and I talked several times and he decided Cody Ryan's suffering should be ended. But his wife couldn't bear to let him go. Finally Cody got so bad he couldn't walk into the Vet hospital. My son demanded that his suffering be ended and his wife finally agreed.
It was very hard for them to take this action---they are still grieving. My son's wife confided to me last week that she now has great guilt that she refused to end Cody's suffering when she should have. I had been telling her that she has to think of what is best for Cody and not just her own inability to let go and her sense of lost. That was what finally convinced her to do the right thing for their beloved dog.
Husker, I'm so sad that you have to deal with this in the midst of your own health problems.
we decided to put our rotty down when it appeared she was in too much pain that we knew would never go away again. i would call your vet and ask them about the throwing up and if it is temporary or permanent and if the bright yellow chunks are signify something.
so sorry husker, many hugs to you and banjo...
I'm sitting looking at him and watching him on the back porch, he's mentally all there, but just doing what does to laz around only to much.
Hope Cowdoc drops by here.
Have you asked Banjo?
When we had to make the decesion to put Simi down, it was just so hard. It was a Saturday and we made the decesion to go in on Monday.
Then, Simi and I were lying on the bed together, she looked me in the eye and told me clear as day it was time.
We made one call to the vet, went in right then, and respected her wishes.
I still get pangs sometimes, wondering if I waited too long. Cats can really mask their pain. The last thing I wanted was for her to experience her last days suffering.
So, when it was getting close to Lulu's time, I carefully watched to make sure she was not going over the line where all she knew was misery.
I put my own desires aside
I don't know, it was just easier to accept that way.
I feel your pain Husker, it's very hard.
Isn't it a shame we don't treat humans with as much love and compassion?
It's a shame humans don't show the unconditional love our pets do.
Husker, BBB, dragon and Chai Tea,
I read all of your posts and all I could do was weep. For all of us and the pets we love and have lost. I think Chai Tea said it best when she asked if you had asked Banjo., Husker. Our pets know and they do have a remarkable way of telling us if we open our hearts and let them be heard.
I am so very sorry, Husker. My heart goes out to you and to Banjo.
(((((Hugs to you both)))))
I dunno this might sound crazy he and I just went for a little walk, and I sat down in the yard and asked him if he thought it was time to go to the vet or go to sleep, I said he didn't have to hold on or wait for Mom and Sis, he shook his head no.
i am crying now...what a sweet dog. good luck husker and banjo.
Husker, call your wife, tell her what's happening. Listen to Banjo. What does the vet say?
Email exchanged with the Mrs and Daughter tonight, we're going to the vet around tomorrow afternoon, he slobbering on the floor. the Mrs and Daughter are ok with what we have to do. Time is grindingly slow and my heart breaks for the little rascal, and he stinks horrible now, part of me prays he passes in the night, he does not seem to be in pain or discomfort unless me make him move around, he's moving very stiffly tonight.
I love this little guy so much.
Husker, take him in the morning if it seems right.
I know this is hard.
Oh Husker, this is so sad. My sympathy and empathy are with you.
Short story on Banjo.
You all know how a dog attaches to a person in the family, well he's pretty much the Mrs and Daughters dog. Us guys do not get much loving or attention when the girls are around which is most the time. That being said I could command him to do anything and he would obey liking it or not (this is a good dog that will do that). On the occasion that there is a windstorm and pinecones pummeling the roof or a lighting and thunderstorm the little guy would be at my feet or in my lap and no one else would do. So you can see the irony here right? But I'll take what ever love or closeness he wants to give.
Normally he sleeps at the bottom of the bed at my Mrs feet and never on my side or close. So the other night, first night the Mrs is gone in Mexico, Banjo starts off at my feet when I wake-up the fart is snuggled up against my back something that might only happen in less than a blue moon for anyone in the family.
So I'm pretty torn on tonight, I don't want him dying or making a mess in my bed or bedroom then again I don't want him alone on his last night.
I won't second guess you, husker, but I'd let him be there myself.
We have an appointment this afternoon at the vet. That's the best now I believe.