@izzythepush,
izzythepush wrote:
I don't know why you couldn't have given your wife a hug.
It's not her fault, do what the song says and Try a little tenderness.
It's always one thing after another so that's why I didn't give her a hug. I've been telling her for years that she has got to stop letting those boys keep her so upset. The step-son made the choice to go pick up his friend at midnight. The step-son made the choice to have all those drugs in his car. At some point you have to consider your own health in this. Do I spend my days worrying about things my kids are doing or do I take that stress off my back and let them figure things out for themselves? It's not like he was ill, in the hospital, or was in a car wreck. He got arrested again for doing something stupid. The kid has multiple mugshots and arrests over the years. By now you should be use to it.
Tenderness is one thing but if I keep giving her a shoulder to cry on then I'm no more better than her because I'm co-signing their behavior by always being the one she runs to so she can lay her head on my shoulder and rubbing her back saying, "everything will be alright honey." "What can we do to help?" If my daughter was constantly getting into trouble and getting arrested I would get to the point to where it would be common place and I wouldn't let it worry me as much. Yeah, I know I can't speak for my wife in this situation but just like I can't speak for her she shouldn't expect me to be so worried and concerned like she is either.