@Barry2021,
You did not hear anything I wrote .... THIS IS NOT ABOUT HER SONS! THIS IS NOT ABOUT HER SONS BEHAVING POORLY. IT IS NIT ABOUT SAYING SHE IS HANDLING THE BOYS CORRECTLY.
This is about your wife hurting and you showing you do not want her to hurt. Giving her a hug dies not mean you agree with the sons behavior ... They could have killed someone it does not matter what they did...hugging her shows you want her pain to lesson ,,,THAT IS IT. The human touch can be so repairing and helpful but you aren't even Christian enough to give her a little caring.
The hug is strictly to show you love her unconditionally.
Face it you really have no or little compassion... Think what would Jesus do? Turn away from someone who hurts?